How am I gonna do it

Have you tried co sleeping or a next to the bed crib? He may prefer you being close to him when he's sleeping rather than alone.

Same thing happened to me except my first was 6 months when I found out. Now I have an 18m and a 1m. I wasn’t ready for 2. If you want to talk feel free to to reach out

Your doctor should have talked with you about how easily you can get pregnant after ivf. It happens to many people. Anyways, it’s a phase! I shortly began to realize that raising littles is literally just one phase after another, it’s really hard. Can you take turns every other night with your husband on bedtime so that you both get sleep? It’s a regression, so it only should last about a month. I don’t mean to sound tough love bc trust me I know how exhausting it is (we fell pregnant 11 months after our first) but it’s reality and we WILL survive this. If you have community (grands, siblings, trusted friends) ask for help! Sleep regressions are the worst, sending love mama!

I found out I was pregnant 3m postpartum. It is very rough. But hey bonus points you don’t have to go through IVF for this baby. That was the only good point I had myself. Yes it’s been extremely hard but I just take it day by day. Also I co sleep because if baby is sleeping good it’s good for mom’s mental health too

I got pregnant at 10 months pp and my little ones are now 20 months and 7 weeks. It’s hard but totally manageable if you decide this path is for you. Also I will add (I know this isn’t the case for everyone) but remember every baby is different. My son has only just started sleeping through from about 18 months, he was always a horrendous sleeper but my daughter is already sleeping through and just in general a far more laid back baby. I found the transition from 1-2 so much easier than 0-1. It’s just about finding a new routine and mainly sticking to your toddlers routine, newborns just go along with it! What are your nights like and what’s the bedtime routine?

@Amanda he’s been in his own room since 5 weeks and I stayed in the room till 10 weeks old but he’s been in his cot on his own since then. Some nights I do bring him into our bed but even that doesn’t work sometimes xx

@Jen I’m just petrified. I also won’t be able to take 9 months off this time. I’ll have to go back to work after 6 months. We only just managed this time around. And I only went back this month x

@Sadie he works 2 jobs to pay for his nursery atm so it’s mostly on me. We are planning on moving closer to family in a few months when our contract ends because there’s no way I can do this on my own away from family. I think it’s the stress of knowing there’s another baby coming that’s making it harder for me to cope with the regressions if that makes sense x

@Rylie I was due to decide if I wanted to pay and keep my frozen eggs this year too so that’s an extra cost down 🤣 We had just managed to do a bit of sleep training where I didn’t have to rock him to sleep because he’s really tall and rocking him too long hurts me. But since nursery he now just won’t settle. With the new baby coming I don’t wanna co sleep with my LB as it’s gonna disturb everything when new baby comes won’t it x

@Elle he had colic and ended up on lactose free milk but he’s scared me for life 🤣 I’m hoping I can manage but I’m just so worried about it already. And we start bedtime at 6:45. He watches in the night garden for 15 minutes (the only screen time he gets) while I get everything ready for bed. Then Porridge at 7. Bath bottle and bed. Usually asleep for 8. I’m gonna try and keep him up longer tonight but most of the time his showing signs of being tired rubbing eyes etc.

Id worry about it when it comes. Worrying about things that may never happen is anxiety and a waste of energy.

Sound machine and we had to give ours a script of pepcid for acid reflux, there were no symptoms other than fussiness while laying down, and that was a life changer.

This happened to me. Ivf for first, bam pregnant as soon as period returned at 11 months for second so now have a just under 20 month age gap and I have a 2yesr 5 month old and 9 month old. I was terrified the whole pregnancy and it basically ruined pregnancy number two for me because I was just so scared about how I’d manage- but you know what , you do. I often think- “hey I was so worried about how I would manage this but look here I am doing it”. It’s not been easy but I honestly don’t think it’s been any worse than all of my friends who have slightly larger and more standard age gaps. If anything we had it easier initially because she was so little that she didn’t understand there was a new baby and so she wasn’t jealous at all. We were lucky however that the oldest one slept through and was easy to put down from 10 months so I only had newborn sleep to deal with. Things are easier now Altho at age 2.5 we are starting to get some jealousy now

I guess I just wanted to say- If you decide to keep the baby it will be ok. But equally it’s ok if you decide you just can’t. I think it’s one of the burdens of infertility that this happens not infrequently. Even though I love my second daughter so much and it’s been manageable I still say that I wudnt do it again if I could gurantee I would have the same daughter a year later- the pregnancy was really hard on me second time round as I hadn’t had enough time to recover and I think it has reduced my enjoyment of both of them just because I have had to deal with two so little. If I could have planned my family I would have left 3-4 years but as our journey has shown you often can’t plan these things and have to take what you are given!