Break up and holiday!
Is it bad I’ve been thinking a lot about breaking up with my fiance lately. Only staying with him because I don’t want my children to go through it (2 and 9) and to be brought up in a “broken family”. I know I should think about my happiness too but I think the other thing keeping me here is the family holiday booked for July. My 9 yo is really looking forward to it and it’s in my finances name (he booked it), however the monthly payments are coming out of my bank account. (We’ve been paying half each). If I leave now, what will happen in regard to the holiday as it’s in his name/through his tui account. If I cancel it now will I get my money back? Can I even cancel it when it’s not on my tui account but coming out my bank account?? He’s very controlling/abusive (not physical) and we just keep having those “serious chats” to try and fix things but nothing changes. Please give advice as I’m stuck on what to do! We also have a tv in my name which we go half on and an American fridge/freezer. What happens regarding everything like that?? I own my own house and he moved in when we got together so it’s my house and mostly my furniture. Just confused about all of these things and want to know what I’m doing regarding these things before I leave him.
You have to read the fine print of the reservations. He probably will leave you with the bill for all those things though since he’s mentally abusive based on what you said. I was brought up in a family where one parent wanted to leave the other and made it known and it felt very weird and sad. Would have rather seen both parents find love that makes them happy or just made it work between them (as long as both parties were willing to ofc) — my parents situation was different because the love was there.. they just couldn’t get through their arguments bc they had different ways of doing things. I hope you can get out of this situation unscathed financially.