Nursery drop offs (uk)

Hello… my turning 2 baby will start nursery soon as well and i am actually worried too as well. As i feel like i am still having separation anxiety being away from my baby when going to work. I was told that it will really take a lot at first but they do need this to actually prepare them for the actual schooling in the next years. So fingers crossed .. we just have to try first and give some time and see ❤️ #BigHugs

Continue building a relationship with your child’s key person, this is your go to person and same for your child. Encourage to make a family book together ( lots of pictures of family and names underneath ) Does your little one have a comforter if so , put child’s name in and they can have whilst being there. Sometimes your little one might need extra settling sessions, the plan is always follow the child’s needs . And if they need extra , you do as many as you feel is right before your child starts . Talk about nursery , make it fun. Your child’s key child need to engage with them and build a relationship/ doing crafts / exploring together. It’ll take time for you all to settle into a new routine and into a new environment. Make a book at home of pictures of his nursery and key worker so you can show your little one at home and talk about nursery so they get familiar with seeing these toys: people there .

This is just going to take time. They get so used to the routine at home it just takes getting used to! My girl went to daycare at 1.5 and it took a few weeks to get in the new routine. She cried and was sad I left, but now of course she loves going! Bring a blankie or stuffy from home and make sure they know you will always come back for them! We would talk about what they would do at daycare and people they would see and when I would be back to she knew what to expect.

It's hard our son has been going since December and only the last two weeks hasn't been distraught at being dropped off. However they have an app they update and he's always happy on it and loving it. He comes out saying he's been sad but I know that's the focus because he sees me again and remembers how it was being left. On the flip side I work in a school with a nursery attached and I've been in there where the child is breaking their heart while the parent is there...seconds after they have left they have their coat off and are off happily playing with the activities and friends. Has nursery said how they settle once you leave?

It’s different from nursery to nursery. For us, the nursery staff actually visited us at home about a month in advance to introduce themselves to my daughter. They understand that it’s an important first step that the little ones get to know them in their most comfortable setting, their home. Then the Friday before nursery starts, they invite us to stay and play at the nursery for an hour so they know that this is a safe space since we’ve been there with them too. Then on her first week, we actually starts doing only 1 hour at the nursery first, then slowly increment the hours to full half day by the end of the week. She was fine for about 2 days but the third day she realised she’s now going to be there everyday so she cried and I had to pick her up early. The next week becomes better as I actually take my lunch with her when I go picked her up for the days that I WFH. And she started to feel better and understand that I’m not just leaving her. Then starts full day after a term.

I’d go with your mum heart if you can, especially if you’re doing a nurtured parenting approach. Or get a nanny in the home if possible. You’re right to question some of the things going on! We’re not touching nursery until 3.5 years if it helps to have a different perspective 😘

Def listen to your gut mama! If you can wait a little while to help introduce them to more concepts of it, I think you should ! You got this mama