Husband not understanding that I need to rest ?

Men are annoying.. I’m guessing coz you started doing ALOT 2 weeks PP he’s thinking you’re okay when you’re not.. never go above what you can do at this stage rest is important .. he needs to step up and do his part to support you! Let him know! X

@Flower I do honestly, I knew I was doing too much but I couldn’t stand dishes pulling up or just seeing the house be a mess. I’m happy to do bits and bobs around the house but it’s gotten to the point where he’s even asking me to cook when he knows it hurts for me to stand for long periods of time so I feel like he’s just being inconsiderate tbh

I really feel for you, to be honest I was the same when I first came home. I was doing the dishes and cooking (this was day 5 onwards) but then I realised I’m really pushing myself.. so I told my husband I couldn’t continue so he started picking it up. The thing about these men is.. they will let you do it without saying anything coz we just do it as women but truth is they are lazy shits that don’t wanna do it themselves!!!!! Sorry for the language but I really hope you find a way to talk to him and let him know about how you need his help.. you are PP you are also tired and still healing.. you also have PP rage (by the sounds of it) which I did.. what helps is sending them articles and research to let them know what it is and how long c section take to heal.. xx

You aren’t even healed yet especially at only 4 weeks PP! Doing his work and caring for the toddler IS HIS bare minimum job right now, he should also be continuing to help you and make things as easy as possibly. Some/most guys are definitely idiots and think just because baby is out we are fine now to continue doing the millions of things we moms/women do on a daily. But God forbid these guys get sick or have some sort of health issues then they are completely useless and we still have to do everything on top of pick up all their weight around caring for the house, kids, working, etc. while they take a step back or go relax at their moms house to recover and get all the help they need or some crap. It’s BS, he’s not helping but adding more mess to the household as a whole as adult himself. You were pregnant for 9 months, you are not going to heal in 1 month or even 2…it’s going to take time and he needs to grow up and figure it out as you’ve now given this dude 2 children in life.

I feel you, I’m in the same boat tonight, I have an 11 month old I went out to do all the shopping this afternoon. Came home with 5 bags of shopping to empty and a baby who’s currently trying to walk and I walk into mud all over the hall way off his shoes and up the stairs and landing and his dirty clothes dumped in the middle of the lading and he’s buggered off to play golf with his friend. I lost my shit and I’ve gone back to work this week so why it’s left down to me to tidy up after everyone and make all the meals is a joke so he’s currently not speaking to me. Since having a baby it’s really highlighted how lazy he is. He’s great at the house jobs like fixing stuff or putting the baby gate up that sort of stuff that requires a drill but the day to day stuff shocking. I would love to go off with my mates for a few hours whilst someone cleans my house. I’m seriously considering charging him house keeping as why should I spend my days off tidying others mess xx

If possible, see if you can go to your parents for the weekend and ask them to help you with baby so you can actually get some rest and time for yourself. He can stay home with the toddler and figure it out and get a sense of how life really is without having someone to take care of him as well and everything else. My ex was like this and he never understood until we finally split up and he was forced to learn and figure out how to care for his kids without me doing everything for him. Seems like yours could use some change in perspective in this. Good luck, keep speaking up and hopefully he comes around.

If he can not care for the mother of his child that just birthed HIS baby, then you need to leave him. You’re not a robot, he should be letting you rest, he should be handling everything sorry. Nobody cares if he works, because one thing women will do, is work, look after their baby, deal with house chores, cooking and MORE and still get on with it WHILST sleep deprived. He needs to step up and be a man. These stupid men want to have a baby but can’t even take care of the person who gave them the child. Pathetic. Leave the house a mess, don’t lift a finger, let’s see how long he can stay in mess for