No Sex Drive

Hello! I’ve completely lost my sex drive and I’m wanting to get it back. I’m not exactly sure why I lost it in the first place. I just have No desire anymore and it’s really hindering my marriage. Any advice? I thought it was from my BC but I stopped that over a year ago and nothing has returned. Any help is appreciated.

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The more you do it the more you’ll want it - work on that theory

@Kelly thank you! I’ll work on this ☺️

Could be hormonal changes, stress… I lost my sex drive from starting the menopause!

Are you in pain when you have sex? Experiencing stress? Or Pregnant? So many factors can play into it. Also what is BC? I'm not good with acronyms lol or sometimes physical and hormonal things make sex less appealing as well.

@Mariah no pain, not pregnant. Always stressed lol BC= birth control- I know that can cause it sometimes but stopping didn’t change anything.

@Johanne I was thinking maybe a hormonal imbalance, but not too sure.

It could be, so a personal question - have lost your sex drive with your partner but not with yourself

Well stress can definitely affect sex drive but the question above is a good one as well as that can point to some other things going on with the relationship overflowing in the sexual relationship with your husband etc.

Thing is stress can cause hormonal imbalances, do you do yoga or Pilates and even some meditation can help to relax body and mind.

@Johanne I don’t relax at all unless I’m sleeping 😂😂

@Johanne it’s just lost..non existent (even for myself) 😔

I can really recommend listening to this podcast episode with the amazing Dr Karen Gurney https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-sexual-wellness-sessions/id1527311547?i=1000488103441 she’s an incredible expert on the topic of desire and talks a lot about how we can influence and trigger responsive desire, which is often the way that we experience desire in long term relationships

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