i don’t want people kissing my babies ..
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Your MIL sounds difficult. It’s YOUR child, you make the rules whether she likes them or not. If she can’t bear to not kiss the babies then just tell her she doesn’t have to be around them
Why tf do people want to kiss babies?! It drives me nuts. Like please keep your slobbery gob away from babies.. it doesn’t benefit the baby… they only do it to fulfill their own selfish desires. We made a rule that nobody could kiss the baby but people do it anyway so just keep your eyes peeled they will try to do it in secret or pretend it was an accident. Now we just say top of the head only to people we know are vaccinated and haven’t recently been sick or have had a history of coldores. No cheeks forehead and especially lips. Also you can remind her that back when she grew up there was not as many sicknesses as there are now. I’m sick of hearing that “back in my day” BS. I could seriously write a novel with every time someone has said that.
I would suggest keeping visitors to a minimum keep the first week or few to yourselves if you can. Especially from people that don't respect your wishes.
No . I don’t want anyone kissing my child at all not even after they’re a month old
No stand your ground. Your mil is pushing boundaries and needs keeping in her place. Had it all with my mil she even started crying and turned herself into a victim because I asked her to stop putting my babies hands in her mouth! Don't let anyone try and put their feelings in front of keeping your babies safe.
@Siena I had this my inlaws they literally made out I was hitler/insane 🤦🏽♀️🤣 In fact, what's insane/weird is having a tantrum because you can't put your saliva all over a baby!!!! 🤮
I disagree and have/had no problem with people kissing my baby, although on the top of the head not his mouth. I don’t see how holding one close and kissing the top of their head is much different, especially given most viruses are airborne anyway and you just are setting yourself up to fail unless you isolate them. That being said, I personally would just accept it and say how ridiculous I felt it was to other people not you. As you are parents and should be respected.
No, we didn’t let anyone kiss our little one either, & still don’t tbh. I would just politely say ok (in a no kinda way) if your MIL makes comments & just do what you want.
@Gia thank you! i feel the same. shes so dramatic i can’t stand it.
@Sophia shes so difficult, especially because she tries to guilt trip us. i’m glad my husband is so supportive of what i say!
@Brandi i feel like you understand me perfectly lol. like i understand you love them but you can show them in a different way. i never said they couldn’t hold them or hug them but just no kissing! and yeah i’m definitely gonna keep my eye on her lol i know she’ll try and sneak one.
@Del you’re so right, i want to do about a month to a month and a half by ourselves 🫶🏼
@Siena thank you! i thought i was insane.
@Alexia thank you! exactly my thoughts!!!
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@Emma ugh i hate that, always the guilt trips with them!!!
@Holly i can definitely see where you’re coming from as well. its probably because i’m a NICU nurse so i see firsthand how fast these viruses and things can spread through saliva or droplets in the mouth/eyes/nose when you’re in close proximity so as much as they can definitely get something from someone holding them i just feel like it may be less risk for their little bodies, plus they’re mono mono twins who share a placenta so their birth weight is a little off because of them sharing so much food. so we just want to give our little ones the best fighting chance 🫶🏼
@Priya i agree, thank you!
I would completely respect where you’re coming from. I see her side and yours but ultimately you are the parents and the decision is yours xx
No, certain germs from kisses can be life threatening to babies i.e herpes virus
@Kerry yes, yes, yes! that’s exactly what we want to avoid!
You’re not wrong. You’re absolutely right. And even now that our son’s a toddler we don’t let anyone kiss his face or hands, top of the head only.
@Kerry you can get herpes as well if someone has touched their cold sore then touched you. So if someone had one then held your baby, sadly it’s still a risk. If someone has an outbreak, hell no near the baby without a covering and hand washing.
Next time she hits you with the “we kissed our babies and they turned out fine” card, let her know that that’s survivorship bias and it’s dangerous to think that way. No one is allowed to kiss my baby but me and my husband. Not only is it about germs, but it’s also about the fact that kissing, to me, is a very personal thing. When I was a kid, i hated being touched or kissed by my family. To this day, I don’t let my parents kiss my cheeks and I have never kissed my parents. They always try to force it and I have to back away and say no several times. My parents don’t understand consent. No one needs to kiss my daughter, and until she’s old enough to give consent and tell them she does or doesn’t want them to kiss her, they will not be kissing her anywhere. End of story.
It’s your baby, your decisions. You do whatever feels right and comfortable for YOU. I also set this boundary with family and friends and It happens that my MIL also took it personal. You see, people will get mad over your parenting choices, but at the end of the day, they shouldn’t have any influence on them if it’s not for good. Let people get upset, prioritize your own peace of mind!
no. even my mother who doesn’t smoke and takes really good care of herself and her teeth isn’t allowed to kiss my baby. my husbands mom hasn’t even met her yet because she insists on kissing babies even though she’s a heavy smoker and we’ve specifically said no one can kiss her. she continues to talk about how she can’t wait to kiss her. so she isn’t meeting her until she agrees to not do it.
When i gave birth I knew 2 people with babies in the hospital with RSV, my mil had covid a month prior and tried to hide it so her Christmas plans with great-grandfather in law (95 years old) wouldn’t get postponed, and my parents (who had literally not gone anywhere except grocery store and home to be safe before baby came) tested positive for covid 2 days before I went into labor. Whether you try to be safe or not, you can still get sick! And most illnesses pass through passages on the face. My baby ALWAYS slept with her hands pulled up to her face when she was a newborn & now has her hands in her mouth constantly. We said no kissing hands and face to be safe, but I also kept her in pj’s that had the fold over mittens and footies to keep her warm (which also helped so much as a deterrent for people trying to kiss her). We could also just change her pj’s after visits if we were concerned!
NO. simple answer. You just said another baby in the family had RSV sans deadly to these babies! You’re protecting them. She can suck an egg and wait to kiss all over your sister in laws baby.