Do you host your in laws without your husband there?

I'd have him talk to them honestly. It might be better coming from him. Explain to him that you'd just feel better that way

Absolutely not his family he can deal with them

It’s interesting seeing how everyone separates their family between his/hers. As much as I conflict with my in laws, we are family. I’d convince my husband that it might be better for them to spend more time together if they came at a time he planned off. Then try to get them into doing that as well. But not make it seem like they’re inconveniencing me . If I don’t particularly have a good relationship with my in laws and my husband doesn’t want to take time that’s his choice too. It doesn’t take away from the fact that he may still want to see his family bc this might be a rare thing he doesn’t get. I’d compromise and just make sure it was at a time that works well for me. If men work and are the sole provider of their house, last they want to use their vacation for is to cater to people. ( coming from a working mom who works FT & is a FT mom) Vacations are set for us to enjoy. I’d be mindful of finding a middle ground and setting boundaries on what you’re actually responsible for.

Sorry I had to laugh at Cherry’s message above “we are family” 🤣 NO WE ARE NOT! I married my husband and they were the unfortunate baggage that came with him 🤣 If my husband is not home then they aren’t stepping foot in my house, I am not there to entertain them. His family, he deals with them

Nope. His monkeys, his circus. I get along pretty well with my in laws but we only see them a couple of times a year as they live abroad. I'm not hosting them if he's working.

If they’ve been difficult and don’t respect you, then ask them to wait until he has most of the days off. Personally, I hang out with mine without my partner there and it’s fine. They have always respected me and my wishes. I’ve been able to show up at their house at 5am because I couldn’t sleep after my best friend died and they just made me breakfast and a cup of coffee. With a baby on the way, my MIL has been very respectful of the way I am choosing to handle postpartum by not allowing anyone at the house for the first 2 weeks

@Brittany if that works for you great. Some men don’t come from family values that they wish to keep. It doesn’t have to be black and white unless that’s all that really works for your dynamic. But definitely not surprised by the amount of conflict situations happening bc of having that mindset too. It’s a relationship. Here’s an example- my daughter who I birthed looks 100 % like my MIL and has similar annoying traits that she was never exposed to… she is not baggage. Our children carry them here and there whether we like it or not. She is teaching me to learn to love those parts and stop seeing them as just the problem. And not sure why entertainment needs to be included. They are grown adults. They can take care of themselves while they’re there. Maybe I’m just not a good host lol

@Caroline pretty much exact same situation. The relationship is as good as it can be for people I only see a few times a year but I’m just not comfortable making awkward conversation with days on end and hosting people I don’t know that we’ll!

Yes I do

Wouldn't dream of hosting my in laws without my husband there.

My mother in law tells us when they will be here, she doesn’t ask, and we get a vague “we’ll be there in March”. Then they just show up without warning. I wish my mother in law would plan it for when my husband isn’t working. Her and I don’t like each other.🤣

Depends on the dynamic. I love spending time with my MIL we have our disagreements thats normal, however my mum lives on the other side of the world. And my MIL allows me to feel like her daughter when i need a lil joke about her son. Guess im just lucky

Shortly after my lil was born they kept coming by visiting knowing their son was working and I had to put my foot down cause they're his parents not mine and I have a lil baby I couldn't stand it.

I go to my boyfriend’s parent’s house without my boyfriend with me. I’ve also had them stop by the house without him home.