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Either ask them not to bring the dog or do you have a garden the dog could be in if the weather’s ok?
Yeah... I have a dog and getting a sitter is a pain but I would never assume that my dog is welcome at someone's house without their explicit offer. I wouldn't even ask because in my mind the answer is no unless they approach the subject with me. My dog is clean but still makes messes unpredictability and we allow her on the furniture so she would be confused going to someone's house where that wasn't allowed. If I didn't already have a dog before becoming a mom, I would also not have wanted a dog in the house while my kiddo was young. Basically my long winded way of saying you are in the right to tell them (or have your husband tell them since it is his brother) that they are welcome but the dog needs to stay home or go to a sitter.
Definitely not unreasonable. The dog is not a baby and doesn’t need to be taken everywhere with them. You shouldn’t have to make adjustments to your home to keep them happy. Tell your husband to be straight up & say the dog isn’t welcome. I wouldn’t want a dog in my home with a baby either, like you said if you wanted a dog in your home you’d have got one!
It honestly shouldn’t be a big deal. People with pets shouldn’t just presume their pets will be welcome in someone else’s home and it’s totally okay for you to set that boundary. I’d suggest him leaving the pet at his parents house if they don’t have a problem with it while they attend the party. If they have an issue it, it’s a them problem not a you problem.
Thank you everyone. I really appreciate your responses. It makes me feel so relieved that I am not unreasonable.
We have two dogs, and we just leave them home alone for a few hours. It's not anyone else's responsibility to cater to my animals.
This is crazy. My sister owned a dog and I still asked her every time if it was ok to bring mine and if not he is safe (if unhappy) in his crate for a few hours. It is completely up to you and no reasonable dog owner is going to hold it against you that you don't want dogs there
ITS RUDE OF THEM TO EXPECT YOU TO HOST A DOG.
It’s a fucking birthday party in someone’s house. They wouldn’t bring it to someone else’s house that they were invited to a baby bday party. We just went to my friends BBs bday & I can’t imagine people bringing their own pets. We’re the same about pets indoors since our baby. It was just too much for me postpartum to clean after fucking pets too. Our cats are now barn cats. 😮💨 One time my friend brought her dog inside our house ONCE and her fine hair is still blowing around here & there & I sweep & vacuum. There WILL be remanence of dog if they bring it.
His dog is not his child. A dog can be left alone for a couple hours. A baby cannot.
A dog ISN’T a child though. They can’t expect that their dog is welcome everywhere especially without asking. Your mother-in-law is just trying to create conflict or compare your child to a dog.
You do not nor should you ever be expected to change your house or plans for someone else. His brother made a choice and got a dog. He does not have to travel everywhere with his dog. There are dog sitters and dog boarding. Explain to bil that you love his dog but you do not want the dog at your house. He can decide if he wants to go and find a sitter or if he is gonna miss it. It's unrealistic to take a dog everywhere and he should figure something out.
You can definitely ask them not to bring a dog. That is weird to bring a dog to another persons house without asking. A dog is not a baby because I dog can be left at home for a few hours by themselves. He can leave the dog at his parent’s house or board the dog or get a dog sitter if he is going far from home.