Grandparents cutting off grandchildren. Advice please
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@Brittany totally agree! I’m not trying to sound ungrateful but they are absolutely loaded!xx
Spiteful. I’d want to send it back too! Or put it through their letter box. But only with consent from my partner 🫣
@Chloe my partner is even angrier about this than me, it was his idea to send it back, we’re both absolutely gobsmacked x
Have they written you or your child other cards before? It looks like their literacy isn’t great, it could be that they just don’t or can’t write long wordy emotional messages in cards?
@Sophie it’s not about that, did you read the op’s post lol ??
I’d shun them, they’re not going to tear my kid less.
@Sophie they’re very capable of writing and saying a few nice words. They’re just being spiteful
That’s disgusting behaviour. I’d also be sending it back too. Screw them.
@Heather hahaha love this
Screw them and send it back
@Ashby I did, I wondered if the card was their way of trying to get back in touch and make amends and was being interpreted wrongly. But if the OP’s husband isn’t happy with this, having presumably received cards from them before, then I guess not
@Sophie they live 5 minutes up the road. After the incident at Christmas I sent a text asking if we could talk for the kids sake and to please not punish the children by going no contact because of this. I got a text back that said ‘for the last time NO, any more messages and I will block you’. He even said he doesn’t care to see them grow up
If they wanted to see him they absolutely could, we’ve made that clear that we don’t even have to be present, they’re just being spiteful.
Ok, that’s shitty and the card is the least of your problems. Just get on without them and enjoy their absence from your life!
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What’s so special about grandma that the whole family allow and enable her to be abusive and you all just have to endure it and spare her feelings? I’ll be honest if that was my grandma, I’d be saying it’s time to go in a home if she’s becoming a wicked old disrespectful women. Sounds like dementia tbh and everyone is terrified to acknowledge she’s changing xx
Good riddance to them, your life will be more peaceful without them. I don’t even know why you’re trying to resolve this, don’t block your blessings 😭 I’m not trying to upset you by saying this, but just going off what you’ve said in this post and the above screenshot I don’t think they cared for you much or for your son in the first place. To cut a CHILD off over something so petty shows the lack of value they held for your child. Your son deserves to be surrounded by people who love him unconditionally and put him FIRST
Nahhhh gurll send that shit back. No one should be allowed to disrespect you or your children in that way. You arent a charity case where 10 pounds can be dropped off for your boy like wtf. Good riddance to them. Some people dont deserve to be in your life and these so called grandparents are one of them x
as a child who’s family members involved the kids in adults issues, my heart hurts for your son. i know it’s not your causing, it’s theirs but it’s so sad to see. it took me being an adult to rekindle with some- one being my grandma, we were very close from when i was in college & got back in contact as she just lived at the top of my road, she passed maybe 5 or so years later & it made me sad that i missed out on all those years of having a relationship with her. other family members now, when it comes to my child & your being rude etc. straight block & delete. your son is better off without them. i hope life is SO much sweeter & brighter with them absent!! sending lots of love & hugs- your amazing, you can say you done all you could ! xx
@Sarah no honestly this💯💯they live in a world of delusion! My partners dad buys nanas Christmas presents and sends them to my house for US to give to her! Even tho we never come empty handed! Because if we dare buy her something she’s not happy with my partners dad gets it in the neck! It’s absolutely insane and this is just the top of the ice it’s with them! She is beyond rude and disrespectful, when I had my boy she walked into my home the DAY after without knocking not even knowing she was coming, I had blood running down my leg she judged the living room being messy because of my hospital suitcase being opened and demanded we hand over our boy, she didn’t ask how the birth was, how me and my partner was or anything a DAY after the birth, she didn’t even speak to us! she is plain awful and always has been! I rang up my father in law to ask a small favour and she was screaming down the phone at me! I couldn’t hear a word of what he was saying she is horrid
@Samreen absolutely bang on! Me and my partner are torn because we can’t live like this anymore! His dad isn’t even allowed to come and see us without permission from his mother (my partners grandmother) my partner loves his family and find it hard to fight with them but he’s had enough, and I’ve come from a family I’ve had to cut off because of abuse and toxicity so it’s rough having to experience things like this. They absolutely do not care an ounce. And I REFUSE to let my children be around this crazy delusional stuff any longer
@~ Miss Ritaa🦋 ♥️♥️♥️thank you Angel! I totally agree. Taking things out on the children is vicious and cruel ! I hope you’re okay xx
I wouldn't bring my child around people like that. Let's just pray that they come to their senses and realize who they're really hurting.
I would return the card to sender
My dad gave both my kids a card for Xmas with the same amount in, but on my daughters card he wrote.. to Kyla, sorry the card is rubbish but it’s all about the money lol. I hope you have an amazing day! Love and miss you so much, love grumpy xxxxx My sons card said.. to tommy have a nice day love grumpy xx I was absolutely fuming and wanted to send the cards back with all the money in! I left it a couple of days and ended up saying something to him, he’s not a nice man anymore and we haven’t seen eye to eye for 3 years, so I gave him some home truths and he’s blocked my number and said I’m no longer his daughter😂 but he abuses women, I don’t want myself or my children around that, so I am not in the slightest bothered but it angered me that my children were treated differently!!!
That's awful, you and your kids don't need that hostility in their life. Keep the card and send it to the neighbours with your child's name scribbled out.
Ah that is so sad to hear grandparent behaveing in such a bad way. I would send the money back.leave them to your partner to deal with them.its their lost.i am a grandmother and i would bend backwards to see my grandchildren. I embrace being their for each of my grandchildren
Send it back, block their number and live your best life. Like you say, no nice words, no effort put in and £10 doesn’t even go far now a days so send it back. X