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And also just accept that messy houses are part of the parenting process. And inform husband that being a housewife is a roll over job. The tasks never actually end they just restart the next day. There’s no catching up and we’re all doing our best not to lose our minds with the mundane daily tasks on top of caring for wild people who don’t give a fudge about how we feel about our homes! ❤️❤️
I felt the same way but as my kids have gotten older, I realize some days it's clean and mostly not. I try my best and slowly but surely, hubs has helped more throughout the years. But us moms CANNNOT do it all by ourselves!!!! Sometimes I just pick ONE thing and clean it. Like unload the dishwasher. Hubs also used to not understand everything I did as a SAHM. I did start writing it down so I could show him because a lot of SAHM's work is invisible! After Covid, when he was always home, he saw how much invisible work I did. I would also point out things I did before! We have been together for 20 years (I'm 42) and we have a 7 & 10 year old. Its a slow process and I'm still struggling with not feeling guilty about not having a clean organized home but am slowly getting better about it. And also understanding that my friends home who has ZERO dust also doesn't have pets, and both her and her husband have OCD about cleaning. We are different!! That contributed to my guilt too, going over to her home! 😂
@Ams I want to be a lady of leisure but I chose the wrong husband for that..😐🤣he kinda old fashioned…I married for security and someone that doesn’t abuse or talk down on me! And he is good company…but we are not rich! Lol
@Francesca my husband turned our dining room AND my sunroom in a playroom for my daughter she has tons of toys all over the first floor…😐 im want to throw some stuff away while she sleep 🤦🏽♀️ but she has a mini “city” and I just gave up! 🤷🏽♀️
I get it! My husband cleans kitchen and play area after he gets done working. Some nights he's too tired but it's kind of his time to watch his shows while he does it. I don't really care when he skips a night. I play up how drained I am from the baby and just need to go lay down at 7 lol
I got you covered! Swap to one playroom and shut the door when the hubs is home 😂 My MIL always tells me she’d throw the kids junk out while they were out of the house, then if they could tell her the exact toy they could have it back, but mostly the kids don’t even know what they’ve got when they’re so much! Also toy rotations? I NEED to start this one
I’m sure you both can find middle ground, he needs to lower expectations n you make a chore chart! Definitely delegate out a few chores to husband too thought! Mine is supposed to do trash n put way folded laundry… it doesn’t happen often lol Set 10 min timer twice a day for a daily pick up and it’ll be less clutter. And declutter too!! Less junk to put away.