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I been with my man for 8 years we have 2 beautiful girls and he is a freaking wonderful dad. Now I been on birth control for the 8 years minus the two breaks I did and got pregnant with 2 girls within these 8 years and I finally wanna stop taking depo shot because I been on it for 16 years and I’m 30 now so I don’t want to continue a birth control that has a lawsuit going on for my health. Well I am done having babies due to me being high risk and ending up with preeclampsia every pregnancy and I asked him to start wearing condoms and he just wants to continue doing pull out method which works but of course it has its risk factors. He thinks because after 8 years of not wearing them and me asking to use them until I figure out what birth control I wanna trust next that I am cheating on him. This makes me furious and I don’t know what to do.
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Have you thought about getting the implant?

I’d be furious as well! I’d tell him again, I’m actually interested in not using birth control b/c I haven’t been in tuned with my body’s natural process in over 16 years. I was being considerate in trying to find a different birth control method that would maybe work better for me than the current one that has a lawsuit out on it and I’m not risking the high fail rate of 20% doing the pull out method, I don’t want to get pregnant! Would you prefer to get a vasectomy? I heard it’s a quick and seamless process that will heal in a few days, then I’m happy to use no condoms every time! In fact, I’d LOVE that, then everyone is happy :) . I don’t have to continue putting chemicals in my body, you don’t have to wear condoms and we’re not at risk of getting pregnant ever!

Why doesn’t he just get a vasectomy? Mostly all insurances cover them and it’s a very quick recovery. 🙌🏻

Say to him he either uses condoms or he needs to get a vasectomy. Why should it just be you who needs to think about protection x

I agree with what the ladies are saying, he needs a vasectomy. It shouldn’t be only on you to figure this out. My sister is in the same predicament and she miscarried, her husband suggested he gets a vasectomy because it was traumatic for her to go through that.

@Kristina Geeting no I’m scared it won’t work on me and we like to not pull out as we didn’t have to on depo

@Alexandra yes and I’m pro life I don’t wanna have to go through another high risk pregnancy

You can get a tubal? I’m going to get one. Hopefully soon. Both my pregnancies were awful on my health. My last son born at 34 weeks. But for now I can’t do hormonal birth control it’s terrible. I took depo once and had a period for 9 months straight and my uterus started filling with lining. I like to use the spermicide gels/films and track my ovulation. The spermicide gel is easy and you can put it in before sex and it last up an hour I think. But I haven’t had any issues with it. The only reason people don’t like spermicide is if you use it multiple times a day everyday it can throw off your ph but so does sex. Also it does not prevent any kind of stds which shouldn’t be a problem since your married. Some birth controls now reduce the risk of stds, which is why they will recommend them.

You can learn to naturally track your cycles! Might take a bit of work but is helpful to know when to avoid sex (during your fertile window) instead of risking with the pull out method and possibly get pregnant if you are having sex before or when you are ovulating. It’s helpful to know precum can have sperm in it as well which can result in pregnancy! There’s also a copper iud with no hormones, but it can result in heavy periods from what I’ve seen. Good luck! Hope something works out for you and your family.

i mean do you guys want more kids? if so he needs to use a condom bc idk if you know this(doctors don't tell you this) if you take bc for a long period of time your body gets used to it therefore it's not as affective as it was, example:(and i know everyone is different but there's a lot of cases like this) my mom was on the depo shot for 15 years and got pregnant 2 times, even with bc, and they told her that her bc was no longer affective bc it was in her bloodstream? so she ended up tying her tubes, so if yall want kids, he needs to use a condom, if he doesn't, he should get a vasectomy bc some tylenol and a chill afternoon is sounding a lot more better than a more complex surgical procedure that'll have you in bed rest for longer than a week or 2.

@Nakaela I been on depo for 16 years never got pregnant on it I decided to take a break twice on it to let me period regulate again and we were not careful around those times this time around yes we are taking precautions but the fact that he doesn’t wanna agree with me on certain methods to give my body a break from bc is getting to me!!!! I asked him if I get my tubes tied or if he gets clipped that’s it no more kids for us and that’s when we put that discussion on pause and we are currently trying to come up with a solution that works for us. Like I mentioned I am high risk so it’s a hard decision for future babies

@Katy i'm gonna text you<3

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