Annoying sister

I gotta rant because my sister is sooo weird and annoying. She keeps complaining about how I don’t have my son in daycare. Mind you my son is 21 months. He’s never been to daycare and I don’t have any plans on sending him. I love staying home with him and being able to give him my undivided one on one attention. We do activities alllll the time. Constantly going to the park, library, beach, splash park, on walks, kids museums, Gymboree, etc we get out the house. He’s super advanced he loves to learn. He speaks in full sentences already. Basically I have 0 concerns for my son he’s thriving. My sister however for some reason is so concerned saying he’s missing out on playing with friends…. Likeee in my son’s head rn I am his best friend lol. I would never judge a mom for doing what works best for her family if she sends her kids to daycare that’s totally fine. My sister doesn’t even have any kids. She works at a daycare and is like brainwashed into thinking it’s the best and only option for babies/toddlers. I think it’s sooo bizarre to come at me as a mom for not sending my kid to daycare. Like why are you bothered that I want to spend more time with my kid?? He’s not missing out on anything. I support the public school system. I majored in elementary education. Daycare and elementary school are different. My child isn’t missing out on anything by not going to daycare. Plus daycare is super expensive these days. Why would I pay sooo much money when I don’t have to? It seems like my sister is just being a hater for no reason. She’s trying so hard to find something to criticize and complain about. And she doesn’t even have the guts to complain to my face. She just tells my mom and my mom tells me. My mom sticks up for me and agrees with me staying home. Like instead of finding something to hate on my sister should be happy her nephew is thriving and doing so well and has a loving mother. She’s simply being very judgmental for no reason.

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This sounds soooo similar to my sister, she always commented on things negatively but would talk shit about my mom, except my mom would say she backed me up when she actually never did but just acted dumb, innocent and concerned lol. I definitely think you should address what she's said to your mother and if your mom has a problem with it, tell your mom to stop telling you the shit she's saying otherwise you'll be addressing it with her directly and saying it came from your mom. It sounds like your moms trying to pit you two against each other, this is what happened from my own experience anyway, not sure how your overall relationship is with your mother but I definitely think somethings being lost in translation for your mom to so comfortably tell you your sisters having all these concerns 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is she significantly younger than you or just younger in general? She could just be a bit immature and not having kids herself you could just block that out and mark it off as her not understanding yet. I have sent my kids to daycare and for very short periods of time and they don’t get undivided attention like you would think. What you’re doing I think is the best option, especially if you are taking him places and teaching him different things.

It is natural for your sister to want her work to feel important, and it is to the people who rely on it, it just isn't for you. I wouldn't put a whole lot of weight into her comments. She won't even make them to your face! (She knows better) You can ask your mom not to relay any comments like this in the future. She's already on your side. It's good that the kids in your sister's care are happy and having fun, she just needs to remember it doesn't say anything about the experience your kid or any other kid is having.

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