i think your husbands family wanting to see the baby daily is way too much! if u don’t feel comfortable stating these boundaries for u then hubby should have ur back and ask them for a lil space!! i rly hope this gets easier for u, this is one of my biggest fears for after i give birth!! x
I feel like I could have written this myself. You're not alone! Be confident in setting your boundaries. "No" is a complete sentence. I've been in PJ's, crying and wandering around the flat and they've taken the hint v well. It's your recovery - you're in charge xx
I remember with my first I just wasn’t ready for any visitors for a couple of weeks except my parents and sister who were extremely helpful. They would come to deliver meals they had made or hold the baby whilst we slept etc. Anyone else who asked I just said ‘I’m not ready for visitors at the moment, I will let you know when I am’. Make this time for yourself and you as a family, it’s so important for both your recovery and bonding as a family
I miss being in hospital as I’m finding everything quite overwhelming and I’m anxious and being there meant there was help on hand when needed for all my stupid questions and now I just worry about everything!
It was the exact same for me. All you want to do as a new mum, especially one recovering from surgery, is spend quality time with your newborn baby. People need to respect that. My in laws were exactly the same, the day we were home from hospital they all bombarded us and I had my baby ripped from my arms and she was being passed around like pass the parcel, including to someone who wasn't comfortable holding her as she was scared she'd drop her. Of course I had no say in it. There really is no respect for a new mother who went through all that struggle and just wants to spend some time just her and baby at the start.
I'm sorry if I will sound insensitive. It is not intended that way at all ❤️ But I don't see a problem here. I mean I made it clear to my husband that no one and I mean no one will see baby until baby turns 1 month MINIMUM 🙌🏼 Him being English obviously finds it unusual but completely respects it. I don't give a fuck if someone wants to come. Only thing what matters is our baby and me and my well being. So u just have to set boundaries. Sad u didn't prior to birth but it ISN'T late. Kick everyone out and have some WELL DESERVED PEACE MAMA ❤️❤️🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Tell everyone you want a set amount of days before everyone starts pouring in to see little lady! You need to be relaxed and be able to heal in calm environment x