Family constantly asking to have my son! - genuinely interested In answers…
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I don't think your feelings are wrong, and I think I would find 4 nights a bit much as a regular thing. My in-laws have my daughter for the weekend about once a month and she loves it, and I quite like the break and chance to spend quality time with my husband. They don't really do big days out much, but they've taken her to the theatre a couple times, aquarium stuff like that. I do miss her and ask them for updates each day but I like the lie-ins. I don't think there's a right or wrong here just what you are comfortable with.
Yeah that does sound a bit much, our little boy only goes to the in laws for one night every now and again when we need/want him to. I still feel that he is quite young for regular sleepovers away from us x
That’s too much for sure! My little one is 3yo as well and I don’t let him to have sleep over at all, doesn’t matter if is my family or my husband’s. I think every child should never sleep far away from the mom when they don’t really fully communicate and cant talk with fully confidence, to be able to tell you absolutely everything what happened when they are away. I’m expecting another baby too, but sleep far away from me just when they are around 6 or 7, that’s just how I am 🙃
My son has stayed with family three times. Every time they have stayed In our house. Twice, when we had weddings to attend and third when we had his baby brother. Our little boy is definitely no where near being ready to stay away from us in another house, but they're all different.
My oldest aka Sep 21 LO has been at their grannies 3 nights when I went to krakow for a baby moon. 3 nights when I gave birth to my second… 1 night when I went to the cinema with my husband. I think they also did a 1 night trail run before Krakow. They have also stayed for 1 night with their auntie. So it hasn’t been often.
My son has only ever stayed away from us for 3 nights in his life. He’s now 3 Twice at my parents house and once with my parents at our house. He LOVES it. But I am not ready for longer periods of time. And my family respects that. We’re only starting to build up to it because we’re expecting no.2 and I will likely be in hospital for a couple of days. He’s your son your rules. When he’s older, sure, but if you’re not ready then no should be enough. I’m sorry they don’t seem to be respecting your feelings. Don’t feel bad about it!
My son stays away weekly at my mums Ona Thursday evening as she has him on a Friday whilst I’m at work and the logistics are easier this way. They share a special bond and I know he is safe. Plus for our son we feel it is important for him to have good relationships with others other than us x
My son has only had 2 nights away from us I think and it was at our house. Every one feels differently about it and you don’t need to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with. I’ve always said when my boy is older and can say he wants to stay over at grandparents etc then I’ll be fine with it but for now it’s just when we need him to
My husband and I do shifts and so our LG has been very used to sleepovers at my parents since she was 1, we also lived with my parents for 3 months whilst waiting for our house completion so she was settled there.... I personally think if your life allows a choice of letting sleepovers happen or not then you should go with your heart and not feel pressured to do either or, but some children need to stay with family occasionally and there isn't anything wrong with that. My daughters speech is also very advanced so she can articulate exactly what she has been doing and what she needs so that always helps... I also love that my daughter has such a close relationship with her grandparents, equally my parents are on the younger side and I trust them with my entire life, if I didn't I wouldnt let my daughter stay regardless of the shifts.
My girls have been going to their nans overnight every other Friday since we got our own home when they were 4 months old. My mum never really got do the full nanny thing with my brothers boy because of his mum. My twins could possibly be my mums only other grandchildren now, so my mum only has to ask for them and she can watch them as long as she likes. She is 1 of the only people I trust with them as she has a similar parenting syle to us. We also set very specific boundaries before hand and as they grow, we change them. So she knows what we kind of allow and don't (we are very relaxed with our parenting so these aren't too important). My mum also pays for the buses for us to take them to her and buys all her own food and nappies, etc for them. By choice of course, we have offered and said we will do this. She also buys them toys and teddies for her house and so does my sister, who constantly dotes on them. We love the break too as our girls are a struggle sometimes. Holidays away would be different though.
I don't really like them to go for days out with anyone unless I'm there, definitely not on holiday for 4 days. To the shops and back maybe but yeah I like to be within 20minutes of my girls, I couldn't handle an entire 4 days without them, I haven't even been 24 hours without them. I'd just simple say no thank you, I appreciate the offer but no thank you xx
Mine only goes to stay over at grans once a month but that cos that's all she can manage. I like the idea of him going out and experiencing different things esp as I can't take him everywhere but at the same time I'd be worried if they took him away like on holiday. But he has food intolerances which has made me more over protective so that doesn't help. Tho my mums the only one I trust cos she gets the whole watch what he's eating and keep a constant eye on him thing. She's jokingly said I need to get him a passport so she and her other half can take him places but I feel mortified at the thought of it. Part of me wud love him to experience all that but I guess I have trust issues!