Anyone else just not attracted to their partner anymore

Since having our little one I feel like we’ve grown apart. I’m literally finding every other male attractive but my partner. We argue a lot and the lack of sleep and stress has put a massive strain on our relationship. If we’re not arguing we are not speaking to each other or constantly annoying each other. I become easily irritable as I feel like I’m taking on a lot of the mental load when it comes to our little girls. I feel like I do EVERYTHING!

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Yes, I had a recent break up because of this and it was on his part due to lack of intimacy plus other things like finances, he left us! I regret I or we didn't seek help. I feel on my part I had postnatal mildly as I'm now on antidepressants helping me cope with some of the feelings and I regret I didnt pay my partner much attention because I was so busy with the baby and house and then at the end of the night completely exhausted! Anyway he now refuses to come back home despite having a child. Some I'm having to move on and it's not that easy 24hours alone plus all the bills etc now as I'm not getting much support now and he left to go back to Europe to stay with his mum, so no chance he's even back to see the baby on weekends😔

Ahh @Michelle that’s absolutely heartbreaking I’m soo sorry you’re having to go through that. I have no time or energy for anything else. I’m struggling to keep up at work which means I’m not performing as well. I can’t even bare the thought of Christmas and the stress that’s going to bring financially I’m just about keeping afloat. I’m also isolated with no family nearby and I don’t have many friends. The friends I did have have all returned back to work and we’ve all drifted.

DM me if you need anyone to chat with. Im currently signed off from work as I just can't cope with it all but I will go back in the new year. I'm practically having to start my life over now and taking day by day. But when you have a partner who's not communicating, detached, non empathetic, not engaging it's really draining in every respect. One good thing now is it's peaceful in my home, no arguments and I'm not arguing with his dad about him staying on his phone or watching TV not interacting with the baby or paying me attention not even flowers, chocolate or a card to acknowledge all the hardwork I put into making a home and another good thing is my food bill cost went down a whole lot since he's gone. I hope your situation gets better x

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