WIBTA if…?

So every year for my mom’s birthday I gift her something she likes. Usually a bottle of wine, flowers and a card or money. This year was my 30th birthday. My mom usually doesn’t gift anything (no excuse for that as she is a shopaholic). I never held it against her until this year. I was surprised when she said she got me something. I went to pick it up. It was a hummingbird ornament and a child’s ring ( a literal teddy bear ring). I faked liking them and went home. I have no use for these items. AITA for thinking these gifts are not appropriate for a 30 yo? WIBTA for considering not gifting her anything for her bday next year?

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I would ask why choose that but yeah I wouldn’t if she doesn’t gift anything

I would just send her a card or something. So she knows you didn’t just forget about her bday. But yeah that would piss me off. Personally this year I really stopped putting effort into people who don’t put it back into me or my kids. Even if those people are family. There’s a few people who only come around when they need something, or people who take take take. I just don’t have time or effort for the one-sidedness anymore. Especially her being the parent in this situation, I feel like parents are supposed to get nicer gifts for their kids than vice versa. If money is short, I’d expect at least the effort to be there. Maybe that’s just me? For my 30th bday my parents threw me a decent sized surprise party at their house. Food, drinks, cake, effort. I appreciated that. Does she at least take you out to dinner or something on your bday?

@Laura she puts no effort in. She always expects my siblings and I to pay for her. She’s been to my bday dinners I had in the past but we all paid for her meal. This past year I just went to dinner with my hubby and son. She called to ask where we went almost mad we didn’t invite her.

You said she normally doesn’t give you anything but you give her something. I like yes technically you would be because in years past you havnt said anything. Maybe this year she tried and she just didn’t do good

@Gabrielle why would I be ta? Because she’d be expecting a gift?

I wouldn’t entertain a relationship with her, why give your energy to someone unworthy of it… she doesn’t care about your feelings why care about her feelings ?

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