Toilet training help

Take it one day at a time.. i know what you mean.. my son was literally terrified of the toilet wouldn’t even go in.. and now he has started peeing in the toilet! You have to reframe your expectations first.. our ASD kids are different so they might need to go slow.. start making him more comfortable around the toilet maybe play a game in the bathroom floor near the toilet.. start emptying poos in the toilet and also explaining every single thing.. they understand more than they let on!! Explain each process with visuals and just start by getting him to sit on the toilet even if its with a diaper. And then making pee noises to make it fun.. and celebrate each step!! For yourself and for him. Breakdown the whole journey from making it comfortable to final end game.. and be prepared it could take months.. its taken us 3 months to get here and now he is generalizing this info by sitting on other peoples homes toilets so thats another win still no jocks yet but its a slow process

But pooping gosh i think its going to take us a few months to get there.. but you will know with each step that he is getting ready taking slow and steady and have boundaries and make it fun.. i know easier said than done but the fun part will lessen your anxiety and his

See this is the confusing part they will go play in the toilet area and flush the toilet but won’t sit on it not even with a nappie and pants on I’ve tried a chart taking the iPad in there lollies I’ve tried getting him to face the other way an drawing in the lid but he won’t do any of it we even let them come in with us when we go but he use to randomly go and sit on there all by himself till we did make a big deal about it now nothing and the more he doesn’t wanna go his younger brother doesn’t want to either I’m just so lost on what to do and I’m honestly starting to think that he won’t be toilet trained by the time he goes to school (not going next year but year after) and his still not talking either so that also makes it a little more hard