Midwife

I don’t feel connected to my midwife, but I’m pregnant with my first and I still don’t understand a midwife’s level of involvement throughout pregnancy so I don’t want to make a fuss or anything if Im only seeing her every 8 weeks. I’ve met her twice, once at 8 weeks and once at 16 weeks and both times I felt things were said/not done right that should have been done 🤨 but she is a nice lady so I don’t want to say anything that would make either of us uncomfortable 😂

Yep, not keen on mine. With my first I saw different people nearly each time and this one I've now seen twice is one I didn't like before either!! She ignored my partner at the appointment with my first and completely ignored him at the booking in appointment this time too. Also keeps saying how busy I'm going to be every time she sees me. 🤦‍♀️😂🙃

I didn’t like my midwife with my first, but didn’t find through my pregnancy that to be an issue as I knew she most likely wouldn’t be present for the birth. If I was high risk or had a bad experience I think I’d say something as I believe they could play a bigger role is getting my opinion across to consultants if needed. I had a rather “simple ventouse” birth with my first but found I preferred the older stern midwife on labour ward than the birth Center. I have already said this to my midwife and said I will be wanting to go to labour ward straight away this time. She didn’t seem happy or willing for this. I’ve left it for now but will push it more towards the end of my pregnancy.

I’m not keen on the one I’ve seen so far. She’s very much a rushy type. My 16 week appointment I couldn’t wait to hear baby’s heart beat, as my area they do they heart beat on your 16 week appointment I went she looked so uninterested and felt like she wanted me out ? This is my first but I have been with friends for their midwife appointments etc especially the 16 weeks one and they all heard baby but mine just sort of didn’t care ? Like I don’t know if it’s because they are that stressed / underpaid etc that they are starting to fall out of love with their job ? Who knows

I noticed a massive difference in appointments between my first and this one although my oldest is 10 so obviously things will have changed since then with Covid etc. My 16 week appointment was over the phone I won’t see her in face again till 28 weeks, so I suppose it’s not too bad that way 😂 where I stay it seems to be the more kids you have the less you see them 🫣 I seen a student midwife for my booking appointment and absolutely loved her so I know it’s not all of them just some 🫣 I also found she asked a lot of questions that she would have already had the answers to like test results etc so felt like she hadn’t really even read up on my record before phoning 🫣 Think I just needed a bit of a rant 😂