Anyone recently PP fully solo with no contact ? How you all doing?

I’m pregnant and have been no contact since the start and expect to be in the same position after birth, if you need someone to talk to or vent to at all feel free to pop me a message!

My little one is 10months old. The last time I heard from her dad was when I was 17weeks pregnant. It's hard, it breaks my heart and it really is a tough pill to swallow. I feel so much guilt and sadness for my daughter and envious of those whose kids have a father figure in their life whether biological are step

Same! Ive not seen my ex since i was 3 months pregnant and my little boy is almost 4 months old , trust me its hard but so worth it in the end!! Hear if you wanna chat! Xx

@Abs oh I do hope you have support from family or friends? Hope you’re feeling ok about it all? The things we go through. Thank you I will ☺️

@Chiara 10 months! Wow! Yeah it really is. I’ve not seen my BD since I was 6 weeks pregnant, and then he threatened ti leave his job because I went csa. Yeah I am the same, especially as my eldest (15) has a different dad and is so close. Don’t have family etc around?

@Lucie Wow what a knob. My boy is nearly 3 months I’ve not seen him since New Year’s Day. But I have had abuse etc and it’s mentally draining. I’ve done it on my own for years as I’ve got 2 other older kids but i forgot how hard this stage is and haven’t had to do a whole pregnancy and birth alone before this. Ty xx

I still just can't wrap my head round it but there we go, what can we do eh. No the majority of my family live 400miles away. I have a sister that lives a mile from me but I don't hear from her and all she does is bring me stress and grief so not worth the hassle. I did reach out to my BD's mum. That was probably the k8ndest rejection I've ever had. She was very kind in the way she spoke with me and it did actually give me a little closure if I'm honest. The lengths some guys will go to to not contribute to the human they helped to create is baffling! Hope you're doing alright hun xx

I never told my baby dad I was pregnant and then he contacted me when my daughter was three months and then i decided to let him see her with his other daughter and last week he walked out and he will now never ever see my daughter she doesn’t need someone that doesn’t care about her

reading some of the comments and it’s acctually comforting seeing other people have gone through or are going through the same. I’ll never understand how men just don’t give a care in the world about a child that’s half of them baffles me honestly. Hope everyone is coping, ur all doing amazing❤️

@Chiara unless you’ve been there it’s hard for people to get just how hard it is isn’t it. I already have 2 other kids and never expected another child (although I did say I wish I’d had one more) but yeah my daughter is 12 and has the same dad as my 3 month old. We believed together and were always on and off , he woukd always come and go, anyway started seeing each other and my kids didn’t know and accidentally fell pregnant. He was a dick about it then told me to drop dead and get rid of it. I let him know when he was born, however he was a twat and gave abuse and turned up at my house drunk, only that one time all year, and then referred to him as a baby cos he don’t like his name, and asked to see my older daughter who hates him and don’t want contact as he hasn’t seen her all year either , and when I said you’ve got 2 kids he was like well I don’t want another kid so. Not paid a penny and his family haven’t seen my 12 year old since she was a baby. Some people are pure c*nts.

@Chiara How do you cope? Do you go to any baby groups or meet up with any mums etc? I dread trying to go back to work as I feel like he needs me extra more

@Abs It is the hardest thing. My daughter is 12 and already has experienced my ex doing this to her, I was foolish to even get back with him for a couple months but I am grateful I got another bundle of joy, who was I to kid he would end up messing up even more. He messed with my daughter I won’t even give him the time of day now. I can’t imagine being away from my kids, and If I fucked yo I’d be outside begging forgiveness everyday and making it known how sorry I was just to get see my child but these men just don’t have a care in the world. I will say my daughter and I are so close because of it though so I imagine me and my son will be too. I hope you are doing ok especially being pregnant? When are you due??

It's such a horrible situation to be in. When you've got an older daughter who is his as well. Knowing that she understands what he's doing must be hard. At least your youngest will never have to go through the disappointment the your 12year old has. It's just heartbreaking to hear there's so many innocent kids out there who's dads just don't give a shit.

Coping wise - ngl the last couple months have been really hard. I went to a baby group that was for 0- crawling which was amazing!! There were such a huge support and it was nice being able to chill and chat to other new (again as well) mums. IThey were definitely the ones who got me through to 7months! I've just finished my masters which was crazy, and I went back to work beginning of September and in all honesty I haven't coped very well since going back. Been nothing but financial issues since August cause my work paid me wrong and I'm now having to train people who are senior to me and boy do they act it. So it's just been an incredibly stressful time at the minute. I do have Home Start coming by on Friday - they're a charity who help family's who are single parent households or families who are just struggling in general. They also run baby/toddler groups (0-5). I dont go to groups anymore as I work mon-thurs and the one group I can go to, my little one ended up really ill from it so I don't bother

Swimming lessons for my little one has also kept me going! I miss being in the water so much (waterpolo player) so it's one way we can enjoy it together. She absolutely lives it!

Just words of encouragement! This happened with me and my eldest, he hasn't seen her since she was a few months old she's now 13. It was SO hard being a single parent, zero contact and doing everything by myself when I was 16. But ladies trust me it is worth it. There will be good days and bad days, but you will get through it. I've since gone on and met someone amazing. I know it's easier said then done but you will pull through it .It'll always baffle me that some people can disconnect and not give a shit about their own child. When I look at my baby now who's so clever and very strong headed I think wow, I really did this huh? Keep fighting always!

this was the position i was in a year ago, my girl is almost 18 months now and the last contact we had was a year ago when he decided wanted to be a dad then effed it up 😂 aside from that, he’s never been around from pregnancy to this date. what i will say is that it does get easier as you adjust and adapt and figure out your own rhythm. don’t even try to understand him, it’ll just eff you up more 😩 let yourself feel the hurt you need to feel and keep doing what’s best for you and your baby ❤️‍🩹 if he’s too stupid to realise what he’s missing then it’s his loss and your gain, he’s no longer relevant x

dm’s are always open, i relate to this rage a lot. it’s hard.

I finished with my BD when my daughter was 8 months old. She’s now 3 years, 3 months and he hasn’t seen or asked about her since. Yet he’s with his current gf playing step dad to her 3 kids🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

My LO is 1 1/2 now and he's never met his sperm donor, long term relationship that ended when I got pregnant. Its so hard to understand how someone can walk away from their child, but you can't dwell on it. You have this incredible little person now and you are their whole world, they don't know that they're missing anything all they know is you. Honestly it's a privilege. Just remember that you got the best part of all of this and they will have to live with the guilt and regret for the rest of their lives x

Shocking isn’t it… I’ll never understand it either im due in April with the first and having a little girl and I’d already go to the ends of the earth for her before she’s even born! every thing I do now is for her, yet dad hasn’t been to one scan or offered a penny towards buying anything for her arrival and generally just isn’t interested. He’s given me so much abuse about the whole thing in general I just cut contact as would rather do it alone then be crying every day over someone who doesn’t help anyways. And I love to hear how close you and your daughter are that gives me a lot of hope! and yes I’m okay just taking each day at a time, I hope your all good too I can only imagine how amazing your doing already raising a little one through all of this ❤️

@Chiara Yep this is the thing, I exactly said too, I won’t let another go through what she has, and she understands and hates him. It’s horrible isn’t it, and it’s even worse when they end up their dads twin 😄

@Chiara Ahhhh! I want tk go to a baby group, my car has just fully broke and I had tk get rid, first time in 13 years without a car i feel lost so I need to try and find a group I can walk to, going to pants in the winter though. I do need to meet new mums as I only really know one lady from my work but I’ve tried to meet her a few times and she don’t really message back. Wow you were doing a masters too! Congrats mamma !! That must of been so tough! That sounds like such a tough time! You are amazing to of got through all of that honestly ! Ohhh I will have to have a look into that. I always wanted to go back to study but ended up staying in a job for 11 years thinking I would just be manager when my other 2 were older but then I always got let down with childcare etc so I gave it up, was due to be back studying sep but then i unexpectedly had my LO In August

@Chiara ahhh I want to take my LO swimming head just 3 months, but not sure if I’d just hold him or want and I’m anxious lol 😬

@R 🪬 Wow!! A few months old and she’s 13 now! Well done, that’s such a young age to do it all from too! My eldest I had at 18, that was hard enough but I was with his dad then, I’m 33 now he’s 15, then my daughter (12) with my other ex is the kn*b, big shock to now have a 3 month. I wish I didn’t go back to him tbh, he gave me such false hope for a house and making it work and feel like he ruined all my younger years and traumatised me that for 13 years I’ve not even let myself meet anyone else even when we wasn’t together- feel like I woukd t trust a man again , so glad you met someone else.

@Soph Oh my gosh! And you think that when their own flesh and blood is born it will change them but it don’t. Oh I won’t ever try to understand how he’s been or how manipulating he is, I feel like I need to change my number as he turned up at my house drunk, banging on my door, called me through the night, harasses me then don’t context for weeks and when he does it’s off unknown as he is blocked and he just talks shit and cusses x

@Emma Nothing winds me up more !! When my older one was younger he once lied he was working away at Xmas , when he had gone 6 months without seeing her, just got back in contact , then I found out he was with some other bird and her 4 kids 100 miles away playing families. Crazy isn’t it

@Hazel Wow! Yeah it is so hard , you think you know someone and bam. He tries to contact me for my eldest and it’s really annoying cos when I tell him she don’t want to see him and still waiting , he mentions “the baby” won’t call by his name I tell him I’m still eating for an apology and get abuse and then he don’t call. Feel like I should change my number! Yep, they are missing out on so much but from experience I grew up with a toxic dad and by a teenager I was done with it when I was old enough to understand stuff wasn’t normal and haven’t had a relationship with him since x hope your holding up ok x

@Abs It really is. Awwww! It will go so quick! I feel like it’s flew by since having my ltktle one end of August , ergh! Of course, the bond you get when you carry them, and the love you feel when they are in your arms, nothing like it. My ex was the same, bit one scan or penny and still now. There comes a limit and so I don’t blame you for cutting contact! Yep me too! Rather cut then be crying or stressed out all the time, it isn’t worth it or for my others to see. Yep, me and my daughter are a lot closer than my eldest , who is very close with his dad, but she tells me absolutely everything , she’s like my bottle best friend, even though we argue like crazy with teenage hormones and post partum ha! You got a ltktle best friend for life so you will meet shortly xx