Can attraction come back…

I think to regain attraction you need to understand the root of why you stopped in the first place.

I think yes finding out why there’s an emotional disconnect and remembering all the things you fell in love with or for would help. I’ve felt emotionally disconnected making it hard and as we tried to fix it I was writing love notes and just thinking of all the reasons I fell in love and love him ❤️ if you’re both working at it it shouldn’t be that hard if it’s right for you

How old is ur child? This is common in the first year after having a baby

@Tabitha see I know this is common as I've been through this, and it happened during labour and then the first 3 weeks of being a mum! Last week we were on fire 🔥 in the bedroom, we have never been so connected. We were connected before conceiving. Being pregnant, we were so mentally and emotionally connected. This past week has been next level. Remember the you guys before your child(ren). You may have not mourned what you guys used to have been so the person he is now you don't recognise so much as we all change after becoming a parent. That's what I did. I mourned what was, I mourned who we once were as people, as a relationship and as best friends. It truly helped. You have to not only get to know your new baby(ies) but a new partner in crime. Nobody tells you that part. I've been in this position, and I tell you. It's hard. It's really hard. It's also very rewarding as I have a family unit that now is ride or die. It's the tightest unit I could ask for. Don't give up! 🩵

What made things go down hill?

Our child is nearly 1. Short story is we are living apart and I am raising our daughter on my own, he visits a couple times a week and we have a date night biweekly. Not the ideal “family unit” that I wanted. Most times I just feel single and we were living together but it’s a very long story why we aren’t now (which he messed up on that), so basically our relationship has gone backwards and rarely have intimate time anyway

@Kirst I feel so close to giving up as I am struggling with being a new mum as it is and don’t have enough energy to put towards our relationship, we live apart which doesn’t help. Also he has continued to bring disappointment… all these things has just made me feel disconnected yet at the same time I don’t want to split up 😔

@Tabitha my bd just left me....

Incognito, my love, message me privately, and we can go into detail. I've genuinely had so many difficulties in pregnancy and now parenthood with my partner. Maybe we can talk, and it may help you or find your own solutions xx

@Sarah if you need anyone I'm here

@Sarah ok?