This is me & my husband. We are from Australia and all our family and closest friends are there. My girl is 17 months and due this baby in Feb. Not going to lie, it is hard not having a wider support system/village at times but also you won’t know any different so you and your husband will find your groove. I had really great virtual support from friends with kids, lots of messages. I also did a NCT class and was lucky to meet some Mums through that. Not super close but enough to have a support group and meet up for coffees and baby groups. Baby groups were essential for me, almost had something on daily just to get out and see people. Some benefits can be you and your husband not getting questioned from well meaning family all the time about why are you doing that etc. You get to find your way on your terms. The loneliness of mat leave is hard but that’s regardless of family being close. You’ll definitely manage and find your way.
Continued… advice would be that you and your husband have some serious chats before baby arrives and make sure you’ve got good communication. My husband is also amazing but those newborn weeks/months were tough and he struggled especially seeing me struggle with the feeding and sleep deprivation. Lack of sleep really hits hard. And it’s such a big life adjustment even if you think you know, you don’t (though all babies are different). Don’t get me wrong there is so much beauty in it all but it’s hard and when it’s just you two and you are in the thick of it. Does he know markers for PPA/PPD, will he/you be able to contact a lactation consultant if feeding issues, what’s his paternity/work flexibility like. What’s realistic for you both in managing the nights. Check in with each other, say something kind to one another.
Hi! I’m in the same boat, moved over almost 2 years ago from South Africa with my partner and we are expecting our first in Feb. Please send me a message and we can go for a coffee or something if you’d like 🥰
No advice but I'm in a similar boat 🛶 you're not alone! We live Cardiff but all friends n family are Birmingham. No one to rely on, just me, hubby, n the cats. I wish I could give babba the childhood I had with people around us all the time but I just can't xx