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See I’ve tried all that … to no avail. People I thought were my friends after years of friendship, wernt. Making friends as an adult isn’t easy especially a mother. And it doesn’t help that I’m too much of an introvert to attend groups etc. 😩 but I have tried
Even with a village it can still feel lonely with all the challenges and stressors of unpredictable babies while navigating our own personal needs. Third on the way! I applaud you. How old are the other 2?
If you've tried and don't want to try anymore that's ok. Do you have a partner you can lean on?
@Shirley 10 and 14 months 🥺 I know it’s hard with a village … and even harder with out 😭
@Susie yes but he’s our provider and works unpredictable hours as blue collar so sometimes he isn’t even home during the week and maybe it’s my pregnancy but feeling very disconnected so don’t feel like he’s my safe space right now unfortunately
Is it anything that he's done? I can't really think of anything other than trying to work on your partnership so you can lean on him, at least confide in him how you feel. I wish I was near you, I'd force you to be friends 😂
I feel for you. I basically raised my son without a village, a lot of it was due to in laws causing drama or for my side of the family just not being involved. I don't have any friends except one that lives in Texas. I absolutely agree with you, making friends as an adult is hard!!! I find even using this app finding people to connect with is like pulling teeth. People give one word answer or don't answer for day. If you ever need to vent, or just want to talk feel free to message me
@Susie I’ve tried communicating and he hears me but we are just on repeat so now it’s just a pointless conversation it seems. Hahah! Awh you’re sweet. Thank you!
@Susie believe it or not we want to relocate to the states. Specifically Carolina’s BUT it’s really hard to get in there unless you marry or have boat loads of money 😩 I have lots of friends there and been many many times
@Satwant yeah. The apps aren’t helping lol. Everyone says they want mom friends but then drop off the face of the earth after one conversation! Super hard these days especially in motherhood. Thank you!
I make looooads of friends. Never say no to one of the vibe is right. Came to this country less than two years ago, lived in this city for just over a year and now have like 8 friends, of those at least 3 friends who will willingly babysit for me when I need it and vice versa. I know it can be hard but try to "aggressively" look for friends. Join mom groups on Facebook, use peanut, talk to moms at the park etc and make an effort, start making play dates with them within a week of texting in a public space and if the vibe is right nurture the friendships.