Feeling low

Hey girl. Sending you a hug and a big, “I totally feel you.” Not recognizing myself in the mirror either and fixating on the way I look so it’s impacting how I feel. Motivation is also so hard to come by. Advice I’ve received that I’m trying to practice is to embrace this change as a temporary state in order to bring your child to the world. Every emotion and experience is temporary. It won’t always feel this way. I’m also mindful to remember that thoughts are not facts. We may scrutinize everything we see and truth is that what others perceive is so different. They’ll notice how you made them feel…Therefore, what we can perceive can be reinterpreted with more grace. I’ve been playing around with different color clothing, haircut, even perfume to create a different experience while we go through this journey. I hope that helps and if you wanna chat let me know. These thoughts can feel selfish and guilt inducing. The truth is we can feel this way AND feel grateful. Sending 🫶 your way.

@Silvi thankyou so much. It's so hard! I try to hide it but even doing my hair and make up I feel overwhelmed when I look back at myself I don't feel happy with what I see then i get myself in a fluster.. I was a proper gym bunny before my daughter was born but now I am struggling to get the time to get to the gym and to also work out how to eat the right amount in-between also having enough calories for breastfeeding. It's a constant battle at the moment. My old clothes fit again but I don't feel like I used to. I do need to remember it is temporary and embrace this stage it's just so hard. It's like I've lost my identity completely. I like your idea of changing perfume , different clothing etc. I need to hit a reset button and try get out of this

Sending love your way. It’s hard to be a mama. Please don’t be hard on yourself. You are doing the best you can and all mamas like myself can recognize and respect that. We are exhausted because we love and care so deeply. Keep leaning on your community for support. We hear you and we got you!

I have 5 you need to adjust your schedule

In between the moments we do kid drop off, pick up etc we need to intentionally put time out for ourselves otherwise it’ll never happen and we’ll put ourselves last. I tend to DIY and do everything at home these days because it’s more convenient for me I can fit it in and don’t need to make an appointment etc. I purposely ring my friends and see them so it forces me to put some cute clothes on, makeup on etc and look decent for the night. I don’t go gym but I’m toned from home workouts I haven’t stepped foot in the gym besides going to class like Pilates Zumba etc. once a week I tag out and go out so that’s my me time and a chance to catch up w friends. I go salsa dancing Friday nights too