AITA In Letting Go of Friendships?

Nope I gave up all my friends.

@Ashley Thank you. I wanted to check if this was normal because I'm being criticized pretty badly. Were you able to make some new connections?

The second I became a mum everything changed. I had zero tolerance for fake friendships. I’ve never been happier I have less friends but the ones I do have I know love me and my children and are genuine. Let go of the dead weight and don’t look back. Ur not the asshole.

I think everyone mum has experienced loosing friends after becoming a parent. Specially if you are first one in your group to become a mum. Just difference in priorities and responsibilities. Don't feel bad for letting go of relationships that don't serve you anymore. Your baby come first, and you come as a package deal anybod with a problem regarding that can find the exit door.

Thanks everyone. I feel like I'm being rational and I'm not even upset about any of it but I'm being treated like I'm doing something wrong or there's something wrong with me that I can't keep relationships. But the one friend who's supposed to be a close friend expects me to travel alone with a fussy baby several hours by train to another city to visit, then won't offer us a place to stay for the night. And won't make the trip to see us. And thinks I'm toxic for just not really talking to them anymore but I would put in part of the effort but would expect some reciprocation so my understanding is that they don't really value our friendship enough to put in the effort. I'm the one who technically ended the friendship but I sort of feel like they ended it and I just called it what it was? But it's good to have a reality check from others to make sure I'm not having a huge blind spot.

Awwh bless you, to me losing friends especially in this kind of situation only means growth, it means you are growing and your mentality and expectations are different. It's time you find people who are more mature, caring and understanding of your situation as much as you are of their's.

@Maggie thank you! That means a lot. That's how I'm feeling and where my mentality is.

Not at all. Doesn’t matter if it’s a romantic relationship, friends or family. If they in any way are causing emotional upset to you then you are by all means absolutely 100% in the right to walk away. I would ignore the people that are criticising you as you said in a comment. Your feelings are valid and you should put you and your baby first. There’s people in my family and my partners family that don’t put effort in to seeing us. That don’t even bother to ask for our phone numbers to message any of us happy birthday or what not. I even had some family members on my dad side ask how old my daughter was to my dad in a group chat with me in it too. Rather than asking me. All these things I thought “I don’t need that in my life” and I don’t speak to them. I don’t bother with people who don’t bother with us as well. Our family for us comes first. Some of my partners family saw my daughter once and they haven’t seen her since she was 4 months. She’s 2 now….its really sad but some

Relationships aren’t worth the hassle. Focus on yourself and do what makes you happy. Don’t let others take happiness away from you

I think loosing friendships comes with the territory of becoming a mom.

I could even finish reading your post before typing this…. Absolutely yes it makes sense. I don’t have any friends who don’t have kids either. They aren’t your friends. We made a new group of friends when we got involved with a church. All of our friends are married with kids and like 10 years older than us bc we’re young lol but it feels right bc we’re all on the same page in life.