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No, I wouldn't say you're wrong but also it's worth pointing out that babies need more things whereas older kids tend to have what they need already and you're right about your stepchildren already getting 2 lots of presents from both biological parents' families. My family do get my SS presents but I believe that's only because bio mum went no contact before I met dad 🤷🏼♀️
I think it’s nice that your family buy for your SC as they are not obliged to. My husbands family buy for both kids and my family buy for both kids. Whereas SD gets gifts from her nan on mums side, and they don’t buy for my son so 🤷🏼♀️ I always think it seems unfair that his family buy for her and her family don’t for him… but I also get it.
My family get the SD the same as our child were in a discussion about reducing it as SD is spoiled from the other side and her fathers side who don’t get for our child due to a disagreement and they go through SD mum. I agree SD has mum and dad’s families so why not your child get more from your family. A gesture is sweet
Mine used to buy for both children but tbh it was less money spent than my own children. Like you say though, they already have 2 sets buying them gifts so anything else is extra that your own children won't be getting! There is that they should be treated the same etc but realistically it's not the same and your family are defo entitled to spend more on their bio grandchildren if they want to and shouldn't have to limit that to buy for stepchildren. Your husband is not entitled to be annoyed about that and should be grateful theyve been bought for at all tbh
The people in my family who want to get sd a little something or see something she likes get her something but she has a lot of other family who buy her things (dads family, mums family and mums boyfriends family) so I don’t ask them to and I don’t expect them to. It’s just a lovely thought if they do and it’s appreciated as I don’t want sd to feel left out but I appreciate that my family don’t know her at all really (they live 4hours away and sd is in school so is never with us when we visit as we go for long weekends) and sd has a lot of other family to buy her things.
I picked up 2 things for SS while getting my daughters present from my dad and then my sister has got my SS something small as well
Yeah my mum and brother do and then some of my aunties will get SK one too, my mum and brother tend to just get one for SK and then however many for our little one, it’s nice for him that they include him and as you say, a nice bonus! x
My family always get SK the same number presents as my little girl, otherwise I would be worried she would feel left out, she is only 5 though xx
Thank you all for your input 🥰 SD has a very large family on her mums side and she is the only child of the family, so she gets spoilt rotten. My partners family is also big so she gets spoilt from them too. I've asked for practical gifts for baby, such a high chair, weaning kit etc.so my family have all put together to buy the big things for me, where as, as said above SD is abit older and already has everything so they've bought her little things such a dolls, jigsaws, bath bombs etc. So I can see why it would look unfair, but we have explained this year that she gets two Christmases and baby gets one
But he ( dad ) has to remember that stepkids basically get 2 Christmases 1 with their mum & her family then 1 with dad, you & your/his family etc
My family buy for my SD and my partners family buy for my son I don’t think it would sit right with me if they didn’t Obviously they spend more on ‘their’ blood relatives but not by a drastic amount I wouldn’t want my SD to feel like my family didn’t bother with her etc :/
Yess my family have always gotten my SC gifts. Now dont get me wrong i do think they have spent more on my little boy but like you have said, my SC have a very large family and get double maybe even triple what my little boy ends up getting. I think aslong as thought has gone into the gift, (my Skids are at the age where they ask for something and my fam get it) then its ok. Your fam are deffo going to want to spoil baby on the first christmas!!