Life once you’ve finished having children …

Not sure what I’m saying of asking here but wondered if anyone felt like they’ve spent all their 20s, 30s working towards having a family and being used to having barriers along the way. But then after this, I’m going to be in my late 30s and it will be weird without having a child being my main focus. Obviously looking after them will be instead but it feels like a very new chapter I’m in. I didn’t feel this with my first but now I’m almost due with my second I do. Not sure if this makes sense or anyone can relate.

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I had same thoughts after having my third baby..

I can TOTALLY envision life with older kids, I look forward to it because I almost had it 😄. My boys are 14 almost 15, and 10 almost 11, and my baby girl is 7 months lol. Gonna be sodding ages before I'm seeing more of my independence lol

Slightly empty nest feeling? Like you're not as needed as before?

At least at the moment, slightly older kids are dreamy! My eldest is 4.5 and my youngest is 1.5. I had today off as it's a school inset day and we had such fun on our own baking, making Lego and having a little cafe date. All of which would've been carnage with our toddler. They're both absolutely incredible, but I do love the stuff you can do with older kids a bit more as it's just calmer. I'm sure I'll miss the baby stuff soon enough though as my youngest is definitely our last!

Thanks everyone for your replies and yes Kim it’s strange after putting so much energy into having a family - and we’re talking it all… meeting the right person, then doing all the steps before eg buying a house and then talks about having a baby, cycle tracking - for me this has taken 11 years with my current partner! It’s so strange that this chapter will be over? But also see what you’re all saying there’s really so much fun ahead with older kids too!

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