Depression

I’m so sorry you feel like this but don’t ever feel lone, so many people go through this. Always here if you need to talk, have you contacted your GP for help? x

Please reach out to your doctor - they will help you! Motherhood is bloody tough and it affects everybody differently, mental health is just as important as physical health and it's so important for you and your little boy that you look after yourself ❤️

Please go to the GP or self refer online for help. As you’re baby is under 2 you’ll get priority access. I had terrible anxiety and panic attacks in my last pregnancy and I referred for CBT which I got in a few weeks, they said you’re considered priority if you’re pregnant or with a child under 2.

@Colleen thank you so much, yes I have done a self referral form this morning so hopefully someone contacts me soon xx

@Monique thank you so much for being so kind, I’ve reached out to my GP this morning so hopefully they can get me seen soon xx

@Danielle I’ve contacted my GP this morning, I am not pregnant lovely I’ve got an 18 month old little boy xx

Yes, I realised I wasn’t in the right group so changed it to baby under 2. You should still be a priority.

It's almost like I'm reading my own post. You are not alone! It really feels very lonely sometimes spending all the time with the little one or at the job you hate... I've been going through the same thing... Some days are better some worst, but I'm here if you need someone to speak to😊

@Danielle thank you that’s so helpful ❤️

I'm glad you've done a self referral I'm in Lancashire and there's a few programs as long as your child is under two, and it's how I get a weekly therapy call which has been helping a lot. This was my second baby so I noticed the signs that I was snowballing and spiraling, and well done to you for noticing that you needed help! Don't feel bad about him seeing you cry. You are showing him that it's normal and healthy to have these big feelings. And hopefully soon you'll be able to show him healthy ways to handle them. "Perfect parents" don't show kids how to handle problems or hard times, so rest a little easier knowing that you are helping to teach him xx

@Elizabeth thank you so much for your kind words, it has really made me feel better knowing I’m not alone in these feelings, I’ve bottled it up for ages because I didn’t want to admit as I thought people would think I don’t care about my little boy but that’s obvs not the case at all! My partner also said that it’s nothing to be ashamed of and it’s brave for accepting I need help, so hopefully it does help and I can get the support I’m needing ❤️

One thing that really helped me when I was struggling at first was voicing the negative thoughts out loud and telling my brain that that was ridiculous. "I'm a bad mum because I'm showering and the baby is crying? That's ridiculous." "I haven't done enough today? I kept another person alive and fed them and made it to the end of the day myself. That's something to be glad about." Calling out my brain for its bullying thoughts really helped to stop me from spiraling when I sat there feeling awful about myself. I also saw a comment in a thread talking about how to help release the mum guilt we all feel, and one woman said she gets rid of a lot of her mum guilt by remembering that dad guilt isn't as much of a societal thing. It made me chuckle but then, she's right too