Loneliness

I’m sorry to hear this, you are not alone as I am sure lots of us struggle with this, hang in there, you’ll find someone you love soon enough.

I am a 24-year-old single mom to a three-year-old and I know exactly what you’re going through. I used to drink a lot too, but I forced myself to stop doing that because it didn’t help much, what actually helped was starting to go to therapy andgetting on medicine. It’s really hard becoming a single mom and even when you have close friends and close family it’s hard to deal with all of it so if you need extra help, don’t be afraid to reach out.

I know how you feel…. I’m also a single mum… my little girl is nearly 7 months old. Only thing is I’m breast feeding so I can’t drink…. I’ve been feeling so lonely recently but I’m terrible with talking to people/being social 🥲

I’m on antidepressants and I have CBT

It’s just so shit. When my kids are in bed I feel so tearful and loneliness feels like a physical pain in my stomach. I just sit there drinking wondering when it will be my turn to love and be loved

I got referred to CBT but got discharged as they said they couldn’t do anything

I was breast feeding and still drank a little.

Message me! X

i feel like this too, my baby’s dad recently broke up with me and it hit me so hard, i’ve been struggling recently trying to get over him but i just miss him so much, i miss having someone there whilst the baby’s in bed, i miss everything but i try stay positive and hope everything will get easier eventually xx

I’m a positive person. No one would ever know how much this affects me (affect, effect?!?! ). In the day I’m up beat get shit done, have a good job to go back to… but still… I’m so disillusioned by the whole dating scene everyone just seems to want each others bodies and not real intimacy …. I hope o don’t die alone never knowing real love

🫤I can relate totally, I am a single mum to a 15,12 yr old and 4 month old. My 4 month old has never met his dad nore have I seen him since I was 6 weeks pregnant, (same dad to my 12 year old who he’s not seen in that time either) I feel like I wasted years waiting for him to change, or things to get better and it feels so lonely. I’ve lived on my own with my kids for 14 years since I split with my eldest dad. I feel that traumatised from stuff I’ve gone through that I don’t think I will ever trust another man again, I would love the pressure to be taken off me for just 5 minutes or someone at night to talk to etc, I think having my 4 month old and doing it all alone has been the hardest as he’s had a few issues too and no one to help with those sleepless nights or take the pressure off. I feel like all my friends are loved up and married etc and feel the same, is that ever going to be me. What will be will be! Hang in there mumma! Message me if you want!

I’m fatigued. Tired of making all the decisions. Tired of being in control of everything. Tired of doing everything. Even to the point of thinking if I died who would have my kids . I’m just tired and struggling hard not to get depressed

I'm so sorry you feel like this. You really are not alone with your feelings and exhaustion. You mention having CBT, but normal counselling might be better as well/instead of? As your - likely - depression sounds situational rather than something that you had before the split? For the tiredness and overwhelm with decision making, is your children's dad involved? As maybe they can do more than they are already in terms of mental load and taking the children out. For the loneliness, there are some groups with Gingerbread or other single parents groups that perhaps you could join. I find that meeting up with other single mums really helps and meeting up with single dads too is an opportunity for meeting someone new. I'm sure you will meet someone soon but in the meantime, try to look after yourself, try to pick up the phone to talk to a mate instead of having a drink, or have a bath etc, also I really recommend starting a course or a project in the evenings for distraction and to feel a sense of accomplishment x

Men smell desperation! Right now focus on your goals and your children until the right man comes. Once a man sees you want him, he will take you then run

@Rachel so true. Right now I want, but not desperate if I saw a guy was not interested after I wore my heart on my sleeve I’d leave it. I know I’m valuable. Just because I’m lonely doesn’t automatically mean I’m desperate. Just because I’m lonely I wouldn’t just pick up anyone. I’m just stating how I feel at the moment. I do focus on my goals and children it doesn’t deny the fact of how I feel.

I completely understand what you’re saying. You’re feelings are very valid. But what I do want you to know as well is that men are really able to see women on a deeper level sometimes better than we can see ourselves. If you look at the statistics, a lot of single moms become single moms again. Now I’m not saying that there’s something wrong with single moms, which is why they’re attracting these types of men, but, there is a reason is often times is loneliness. I just want to share with you one of the things that a lot of single moms need to be careful of. Yes we want that significant other and our life, but we cannot make it a goal or a priority or Give it too much attention.

I disagree. It can be a goal and a priority. You are giving men way too much supernatural power! I agree. If you are lonely you can pick Up the wrong person via desperation. If you don’t give attention to It how will You avoid the wrong one!!! Ignoring the need doesn’t make the right one come Along by default.

Why can’t we make it a goal?!?! Making it a goal doesn’t mean you are desperate!