Long distance marriage
My husband works about 5 hours away on a 7 days on and 7 days off schedule, And realizing how many holidays and birthdays he’s going to miss this year makes my heart so sad. We have had a hard last year trying to survive and this job is finally going to get us out of the rut we’ve been in but at what cost? He’s going to be missing all of his kids grow up ( 6 week old, 20 month old and a 6 year old). And I’m already feeling alone and this is only his 3 week gone (2 for training and actual first week). Im raising all of these kids by myself and the reality of it sucks so bad. And I noticed when he came home Thursday-Sunday I was pushing him away by having an attitude and I honestly think it’s because I’m resentful because he gets to leave and not have to be a dad 24/7 while I am a mom all the time day in and day out even while he will be home. I’m just so sad and my hormones are all over the place still from literally just having a baby, And it’s so hard because while he’s away I can’t do anything for myself, I’m literally getting 4-5 hours of sleep a night and still having to raise these kids.😭
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Best advice I have is get outside, get a gym membership with daycare or just do stuff you like. Pay for a sitter for a few hours to get some time to yourself , I sure do! Local high schoolers watch the kids for a few hours if I ever want to go out with my friends. It helps so much! If you’re home with the kids some sacrifices can be made for you to get some alone time for sure. Also when he’s home plan date nights at least once a month. Don’t even need to spend money like that. Do chores together. Cook together. Cuddle. Speak nicely. It all helps.
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Hey! I’m with you! My man works on the oil field 2 weeks on and off. We moved across the country for this job so I have no family here but have made friends and I work. I have a 4 year old and 2 year old and at first was a SAHM but I wanted my masters so started working and going to school. We celebrate holidays when he’s home 🙂 kids don’t know any different. Same with birthdays well either celebrate early or later nd then I’ll ft him on the actual day if he’s gone. He does his best to be present over ft when he’s gone. He calls after work and talks to the kids but they kinda check out when he’s talking since he’s not physically here. When he’s home I used to and still sometimes have an attitude idk why I’ve brought it up to him before but I changed my mindset that I have limited time w him and to be grateful that he worked so hard away. It can be weird for sure I am so busy that it seems like 2 weeks goes fast. When I think of it as him working only 6 months out the year it’s worth it