Does your ADHD child have trouble keeping friends?
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As someone who is an adult with adhd and is autistic… i struggle keeping friends to this day… especially if they are not my neuro-type… so maybe help him finding kids who are also adhders… and give them opportunities to do parallel play vs cooperative play
Yes, through my son also has level 3 autism and intellectual disability so he is quiet behind his peers he has a couple of classmates/kids in the support unit he gets on well with but sometimes he goes weeks without saying hello to them but then they will say hello every day it just depends how they both are at that moment and if they all feel overwhelmed I understand that they don't want to talk to others.
@Patricia As long as you recognize it is what matters. He's attending a youth conference for the weekend, so that will give him a great amount of time with the kids from church. We will gradually have to work up to inviting anyone over. He just is super clingy and will keep pushing kids away by being too talkative and overbearing. I definitely do not take it easy on him even if we are playing a game. He constantly says he hates me as a result because I have a low tolerance of allowing him to have what he wants whenever he wants. I've been told by his therapist to keep staying consistent with the firm boundaries as well as providing him with reasoning behind it. He's super competitive with everything so it's finding that balance of learning it's okay to not win everything and just have fun. As he approaches high school in August hopefully there is some social growth
@Lyss That's understandable. The hard thing is he doesn't want to be placed in a box of who to socialize with. Maybe as he becomes older he may be able to distinguish more people like him. I just feel it's unfair to ever shrink yourself for anyone. Ultimately I have faith that his genuine friends will find him and like him for who he is.
@Meg Oh wow! My son is the opposite and talks too much. I like the fact that at least the intention is there that the other children want to interact with your son. That's super sweet especially since some children can be mean. I just wish there was some type of balance between all children playing together while understanding that others are different and are amazing friends.
Aww that's so tough! For both of you. Hugs ❤️ I can relate. I can tell you I played with my son a lot. Looking back I wish I had modeled good socializing better. I was used to always trying to keep my husband happy and calm. So unfortunately I was the same with my son. So he was used to always winning, if he wanted the toy I was playing with, I gave it to him. He wasn't used to compromising. The sad thing is I didn't realize I was shaping the way he would expect friends to be around him. 😢 Maybe he can have church friends over. It could give him practice socializing.