The mums you see are the minority! The mums like you are the majority, we just don’t show off our lifestyle because reality is nobody wants to see me in my fiancés oversized jumper for the third day in a row, with unwashed hair and no makeup 😂 When I walk into a playgroup 1 day a week with my hair and makeup done, and it probably looks like I’ve got my shit together, but it’s because it’s the one day my fiancé has off work and he’s watched the kids while I’ve gotten ready. The other 6 days I am the complete opposite
Oh hun, please give yourself a break!! Nobody can do it all, and remember that you only see one side and the things that other mums are doing, not the things they feel they aren’t! Just because it looks like someone has their shit together, it doesn’t mean they do. I’m 29 weeks pregnant and work full time so motivation definitely isn’t my strong suit right now. However one thing I will say is that I find working full time easier than being a SAHM - I really struggled with maternity leave. Being a SAHM is absolutely exhausting so such hard work so please give yourself credit. The only reason my hair and makeup is done is because I do it before I head off for work. That’s also the only reason I’m not in leggings and a massive jumper every day (despite the fact I want to be) 🤣
Don't believe everything you see. You don't really know what happens in those moms' homes. Maybe they seem very happy and joyful but actually they hide sadness and loneliness. Or it can be that their babies are at nursery all day and the teachers are those that look after them. It's not your situation that you stay with your baby. Besides with this ugly weather there is not much to do outside, so all SAHM are the same like you: a short walk then stay home the whole day, do the house chores. I'm in the same boat. And I feel ugly, tired and isolated and bad like you.
Just remember people only usually post about the good stuff - I probably do my hair and make up like once a week if that and only if I’m going out and seeing people so they assume I’ve got my shit together, 90% of the time I’m a mess 😂 no make up, hair not done and just a general mess! One thing someone reminded me was that my baby doesn’t care what I look like or where we go, she’s just happy to be together and I’m embracing that until she’s old enough to want to do specific things. Park and supermarket are our favourite things to do at the moment ☺️ You’re doing a good job - try not to compare to what others are doing - you are doing more than enough ❤️ xx
Being a SAHM is hard! Because I work (I do 3 days 8am-6.30pm) I feel guilty for the time I’m not with them and make sure I have a plan for the days I’m with them. It’s not that I’m organised or have it together. It is usually the same thing every week, my house is chaos and the chores are piling up but that’s not seen. Self care is minimal and hair and makeup only gets done for work
If you’d seen me on Saturday, you’d probably think I was one of these mams but in reality I made an effort so I could take a new passport pic and the rest of January I’ve gone for the gorgeous Adam sandler lazy day look! You’re doing your best and every mam clinging on with a toddler gets that! But if you can, try and do something to treat yourself because parenting can be haaarrrrd sometimes and you deserve a break too xx
Take heart, you are doing a great job!!