Absence makes the heart grow fonder

Why do you say false

I too say false. Not everybody’s got object permanence.

@Parker 又 I honestly think it's a gender thing .

@Cher 🧖🏾‍♀️🏋🏿‍♀️🎧 interesting, elaborate on that for me? I don’t hold the same opinion but I am curious

I feel for men it's true. And for women it's false . Just by experience. I've had men show up at my door with a ring months/years after a breakup . Yet I feel nothing . Maybe the first few weeks I'm emotionally all over the place, but after a while I bounce back .

@Cher 🧖🏾‍♀️🏋🏿‍♀️🎧 I kinda get what you mean, but I feel like that situation is like “you don’t miss what you have til it’s gone” not “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

@Parker 又 if you explore what the fondness of someone means, or being fond of something. .. you will see that if you put two and two together the yearning of what's in your heart.. recapping memories, personality ,the characteristics the charisma. It all adds up . So over time , I truly do feel that absence makes the heart grow fonder. The person isn't gone, it's the lack of who was initially in your life that's absent rather than gone

I dunno, people say “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and also “out of site out of mind” it can’t be both 😫

As a military spouse, I miss my husband when he’s away. But to that, I also enjoy having time to myself to enjoy the things I like. And I forget about the little things he does that may get on my nerves. I’m always over the moon when he comes home.

I had a guy friend from highschool that i talked to via text everyday. He made it known he had feelings for me and i made it known i did not. I noticed i started having to initiate all convos so i just stopped. After 3 days he asked what was up and i told him. He tried to say he thought absence makes the heart grow fonder and i had to let him know he was sorely mistaken because it just annoyed me and made me realize i dont need to put in effort.

I believe that the idea is we tend to remember the best parts of a situation or paint it better in our mindset. Not just people who we date but people who have passed away, vacations, school classes ECT. My mind doesn't work that way but it's what I have seen.

@Emily this is the explanation I've always seen for it. You miss moreso the idea of them you have in your head, but then when you're together again you're reminded of all their annoying traits 😅