naughty child

my daughter is about to turn 3. she is very cheeky but sometimes super naughty and its making me really upset. she will hit me and laugh thinking shes playing with me when she is physically hurting me, kicks me in the stomach for fun, pulls my hair, would break things just to piss me off.. im so exhausted. i’ve tried telling her how it makes me feel and i get down to her level so im not always saying NO or yelling. but nothing changes. she refuses to brush her teeth because she doesn’t feel like it, she doesn’t want to put her pyjamas on at bed time because i ask her to do it she wants to sleep in her pants and i end up putting them on her when she falls asleep. her favourite word is no. when she gets angry if i take something away from her i leave the room because she will have the worst tantrum !!! it makes me cry sometimes thinking i have spoilt her or that im not understanding mother hood or that i have failed … what should i do.. she will put her hands on her waist and stomp her foot and say NOO!!! i stopped putting peppa pig or shows that i feel like are influencing her behaviour for a while now and i have no idea what to do next..

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I feel like she can’t regulate her emotions, she isn’t being naughty although I no it can feel like that. You need to try distraction tools. And pepper pig and programmes like that such as coco melon are so over stimulating. Try other programmes on bbc player have really good ones like zog, the highway rat, patchwork pals, Bluey, and then prime have kipper etc. you can get books that you can ready to her all about emotions which might be good to read a bed time x

I think finding ways to regulate her emotions like have an emotion wheel, I think as for the breaking toys and hitting and getting physical that needs to be redirected and shown that’s not acceptable not sure if you do time out but a kid knows to a point they can’t cross, my son almost two will shake his one finger like no no no when he knows he shouldn’t have done something and often times he cover his face with his hands be like sorry momma but give a look and they should know they’ve overstepped. I think also look at sweets given maybe set up a treat system if she gets to a point of not having tantrums but being more respectful, it’s also not just you mama part goes to the dad who also gives clearance and rights so as long as your on the same page theirs no confusion where oh I can do it with momma but I’m dads not gonna take it; if that makes sense.

And I’m not saying necessarily candy treats it can be fun activity’s or even fun places to visit make a sticker chart I remember having one in grade school and if I had a good day I got a sticker choose her favorite stickers make them big lol for sure enjoyment and let her collect weekly and each weekend reward for good behavior and I wouldn’t see a problem in a occasional shopping spree

This is typical toddler behaviour, they push boundaries, some more some less. You haven’t failed any, you have a little one whose going to grow up into a strong independent self reliant adult, which is amazing! Maybe you could use some help with how to talk to her so she listens, there are so many resources about this as toddlers are hard! On instagram: big little feelings, good inside, transforming toddlerhood, Book: how to talk so little kids will listen Course: big little feelings - winning the toddler stage. You’ve got this! Learn how to end the power struggle and you’ll both benefit from improved communication xx

First of all you haven’t spoilt her and it’s not your doing. The terrible 2/3s is not a very nice stage for some. Your beautiful little girl is testing boundaries. My daughter will be 3 on Valentines Day and is a sassy, strong, Independant little girl. She absolutely torments her daddy and I see how it’s affecting him. I had to use time out to show her that her behaviour is not acceptable. I promised myself I would never do time out but last night she really went to town on him. If you need to talk or even cry I’m always here. Keep your chin up as your doing a fantastic job! Xx

Unpopular opinion but sometimes gentle parenting doesn’t work for all kids. It’s normal for them to push boundaries but she needs to know your the boss and you mean business. You’re a bad bitch and an awesome mum! Just be persistent with your discipline Good luck xx

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