Please help. Obviously I know maybe I overreacted a little bit, but it was my first child going to school and I was already nervous and suffered from anxiety, so I just wanted to make sure he gets treated the way he should.

Am I being over dramatic or in the wrong? my three road started preschool January 2 so he’s only been going a couple days a week and they already had a couple days off well on his second day. I was watching them at recess and an aid kept pulling on his arms and yanking him back by his hood, but my son wasn’t doing anything, and then another student was going down the slide, and they yanked him up the slide by his hood that made me pretty upset and I was gonna say something, but I didn’t wanna start trouble on his second day. Well, my mom, his grandma surprised him and picked him up one day from school and she mentioned it to the teacher who immediately messaged me on this class private app. I explained to her my concerns and she was sweet about it and said she would talk to the aids. Well, another time the following week before his teacher came out to join them for recess. Another aid made my son get off of a toy and she kicked it with her foot to the side laughing and wouldn’t talk to my son and he was trying to get her attention by trying to reach for her hand and following her around because my son doesn’t talk, so I’m not sure if something was wrong cause I couldn’t really hear or if he just wanted to play, but she was completely ignoring him which I felt was really rude since my son again can’t talk or communicate well that’s his way of expressing something, and she was completely ignoring him. Well fast-forward now to yesterday, my son was at school and his teacher was out sick so it was just the aids in the classroom. I kinda get a little bit of a rude message from his teacher saying I need to pack my son with gloves for school inappropriate clothing for them to go to recess because they had to lend them a pair now I packed two pairs of gloves in his backpack yesterday and purposely put them on top for them to see. I packed gloves every day for school, but they keep going missing at his school so I started labeling stuff. Well, his teacher messaged back three people searched his backpack and they weren’t there so I didn’t pack them. So last night I ran to the store and we bought him more gloves. I then labeled them with his name and put another pair in a Ziploc baggie, and I said for so-and-so, “sons names” please do not lose. Well, I then get a very nasty message from his teacher today saying that was inappropriate. It was rude. It was dissing the schools and the teachers that work there, etc. and there was more to the message, but I’m not gonna type everything out. She was pretty much saying that I gotta learn to trust a school and it was a mistake made on my end and we’ll just forget about it if I continue packing him with them and that he’s a good student etc again more to the message but you get it.. so anyways I was very upset because the teacher again I felt like she was reframing my character as a mom and basically calling me a liar so I rushed to the school to pick my son up because I know sometimes these aids will make him the black sheep of the classroom kind of pick on him throughout the day so I told them I was withdrawing him from the school. My son loves school and he loves going and I want my son to get the help as he severely needs it with his speech, but I am very upset with the way things were handled at the school but now I’m feeling even more bad with Myself, that I made the hasty decision of pulling them out. Maybe I should’ve had a meeting with all of the teachers in the aids first I don’t know. What would you have done in this situation?