Do I enforce outings or no?

Hey y’all, soo for the past two weekends me and my son have been home chilling and today I said okay we’re gonna go to the library! I went to tell him we’re going to the library and his response is « NO, I wanna play marbles right here » and I’m okay « so you don’t wanna go to the library »? And he’s like « no marbles «  and runs down the hallway with them it was super cute! But I’m like damnnn we don’t go out much during the weekends because he really enjoys playing with all his toys at home when he isn’t at daycare so I’m like am I doing the right thing by not going anywhere or should I enforce going outdoor activities??
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I would try to enforce some outdoor activities to be honest, it's good for everyone to get out the house. Even as an adult half the time if I could choose, I'd rather stay home and do whatever and chill but I know I always feel better after I've left the house.

Definitely both! It’s important that kids are happy and comfortable playing at home, as there are days when outside activities and outings are not possible. It’s also very important to go out and about when possible too, so they can explore new places and activities! ❤️ The only thing that I would change is how you asked/told him and let him then decide the plan. In this situation it isn’t a big deal as it’s just playing, but boundaries are definitely important to making sure that he will listen in future for bigger things. It might seem silly and not connected at all, but even small things enforce that they do not always need to listen. I think the best way to go about this situation, when you don’t mind the outcome as to what the plan of the day is, is to ask do you want to go to the library or play with marbles? This way it is his choice on what to do, without him refusing what you’ve told him is happening. But also have days where you decide activities, and enforce them too! ❤️

I mean, both but if there’s clear communication on the desire like there was today, I’d respect that communication. It just means next time you don’t ask, you state what the plan is. “Never pose a question as a ‘yes’ or ‘no’, unless you will accept no as an answer,” is so far one of the greatest parenting tips I’ve received.

If he is quite happy chilling at home, then I would leave him to it. You can't really force him to go out if he doesn't want to.

I’m not for forcing any activities or anything but if it comes down to somewhere we need to go or I want to go then too bad kid, you’re coming lol

Definitely do a mix of both. I would also recommend planning ahead a bit more, and talking to your son about it instead of being spontaneous. Spontaneous can be fun! But, I’ve always found that kids prefer to know what’s going on lol

I think if he was sat at a screen I’d say definitely say No we’re going to the library but if he’s playing nicely with his toys I’d let him play.

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