Do I call too much?

My son goes everyday, I don't call as they said if there's any problems ect they'll call me, but they do have an app where they send me pics of him through out the day to show me what he's upto ect and what he's eaten, how many nappy changes and if they were poos or wees 😂 which helps put my mind at ease, now I sit there checking my phone for the notifications all the time 😂 does urs have that option?

as a nursery worker, they’re probably being polite. we’re used to parents calling the first week to check in, but after that there’s no need, it can become disruptive, it can put pressure on the practitioners, and the people answering the phone (usually the office based ones like deputy or manager) have tonnes of work to be getting on with. like i say, first week is fine but you should probably stop now, especially if it’s been three weeks xx

Do you have an app you can check instead? Our nursery tend to update for the morning at lunchtime when the kids are napping and then later on at 4/5 when the sorter day kids go home. I haven’t ever called the nursery to see how he is (feeling a bit guilty now) but I do check the app on my lunch break at work.

Call as much as you want like they say. I only ring now if she’s gone in upset or if her grandmas taken her and not remembered to text that she’s gone in fine. But she’s been going since September and does really enjoy it x

They normally give the option to watch them on the camera for an extra fee. Do they have that?

Honestly, it’s your baby and you’re putting them into someone else’s care. Call as much as you want. Coming from someone who used to work in that setting. Yes we had so much work to do, but were never too busy to give an update to a parent. You never know what is going on in peoples lives and why they need more updates than other parents. You may find you’ll stop calling every day as she goes more, but don’t put pressure on yourself to stop.

I wouldn’t personally be calling daily, can you imagine if every parent of every child there did that. It would compromise the whole running of the nursery as staff would constantly be on the phone.

I called on his first day but nothing after that. If there was an issue they'd call me

I think it’s ok whilst you and her both settle into your new routine. You won’t need or want to call forever, but if you need to call, you call xx

I never even called them when he first went there. They did call me during the first week to tell he was alright. That was reassuring so I never needed to call again

@Johari if the person posting this is from the UK, then we don’t have cameras in nursery settings in the UK (there might be a couple that do, but generally the majority of nurseries do not have cameras and if they did, parents wouldn’t have access to these anyway) x

I would personally say it’s too much. If there’s any issues they’ll call you. As someone else said, imagine if all parents called most days just to ‘check in’ fair enough if you’ve got an issue you want to raise/ check. But just a general check in..

Your baby, your breathing, living, super dependent on you baby is away from you. You are their parent. You have every right to make sure they’re okay. If anyone says otherwise then screw em.

I've never done this, I can imagine it's also not good for you, even though you probably think it is helping. The staff are busy helping the children have a great day, if they have any problems or something is wrong they will call you

@Meghan 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Every parent is different. I never called in to check on my little ones when they went to nursery. If there was any problems the nursery would call me

Personally I've never called. They call me if there's issues. But we also also have an app where we can track what he ate, when he slept etc. I don't think I would have called even if they didn't have the app because I wouldn't want to disrupt their day, unless I know my son isn't 100% that day or was unhappy going in

I have never called the nursery to check in, i ask when I collect him if everything has been ok. Anything of concern they will contact me.

Personally I don’t call but my sons nursery give me updates on him and send me pictures of him throughout the day

Didn’t know calling in was a thing tbh x

I don’t think I ever called the nursery, even when he first started 🙈

I didn't call when my son started at all. They called me to say he was fine, and since then they call with any issues. We have an app that sends pics through and I can message staff/they message me. So I've not felt the need

You’ll call less and less as you get comfortable with her being there and they know that. My daycare has a camera and I used to watch it constantly and now there have been a few days when I haven’t even checked! We started about 6 months ago. Those first few weeks were the hardest.

I wouldn’t call that much just because I want the nursery workers focused on the babies, not taking phone calls. They will call if there’s anything. Case in point: they rang today because he was running a fever.

I wouldn't personally call daily x

It feels very overboard. My daughter started last month at 21 months and I haven't rang them even though she has medical issues. I'd much rather them be spending time with the kids than answering the phone to me all day. I check in at the end the day when picking her up and they let me know via the app if there has been any issues, Thursday I got a message to say she hadn't eaten much all day but I had already seen that when they had updated the meals section of her app.

Hmm I suppose I get it from the point of view that you’re entrusting your most precious human to someone else but I think I would personally rather they focus on the babies. I’ve been there when they take calls and I know they can do it and are happy too but they have to stop something else they’re doing and draw attention from giving 💯 to your child. Do they not update on an app? I only ring if he’s poorly or I need to tell them something

I work at a nursery, if you’re not being called then they’re totally fine! But if you want to call, don’t hesitate you can always call and ask x