Valentines

I don't think you're being dramatic! Why wouldn't he post you today and instead tomorrow?

I don’t think you’re being dramatic. Don’t lower your standards just because he’s not meeting them. Becoming comfortable in a long term relationship is not an excuse to stop wooing you. That goes both ways! I would feel sad too, the stronger you hold onto your standards, the more they will be met.

I don’t get why he’ll post tomorrow and not today?? Makes no sense but my fiance does the same, irritates me but I’m not gunna ruin my own day fighting with him. So ig it’s just picking your battles

@Baylee thank you!!! And thats exactly it! After so long men do stop pursuing us! Thank you for understanding me

@Kaylee he said because we are going to lunch tomorrow which still doesnt make sense but you are SO right im not anout to let him ruin my day!

@Ashley because we are going to lunch 😂 mens thinking i guess

i don’t think your being dramatic, my husband hasn’t even posted me or anything today. it irritates the crap out of me. he’s off today. so it’s like sir🙄🙄. i already posted him today

I actually just had a good cry by myself in bed because it sucks seeing every girl post the roses, gifts, whatever they’re men got then while I got nothing… (he told me to order a book from Amazon!? Wtf) and the worst part is that it doesn’t matter what he does at this point it won’t actually fix the fact that he got me NOTHING! I got him a little cute gift and chocolate and he couldn’t even be bothered to get me a card.. for me it’s not about the gift, its about the thought and after 10 years together I should have just accepted that maybe I don’t matter that much.. sorry about the rant… I just had to get it out 😞

@Inês exactly!!! And telling you to order something is a slap in the face! Getting your favorite candy would have been cheaper but meant SO much more!

100%! If I can’t even expect the bare minimum from him then my standards are practically nonexistent… I’m just so mad at myself that after 10 years of this same behaviour I still have hopes that he will walk through that door with the tiniest gesture to show that regardless of the circumstances he tried… but I guess not… hopefully next year I’ll finally be numb enough that it won’t hurt anymore

I always remember valentines day but this year I completely forgot. I always get my hubby something for V day and I never get anything back. I know he loves me but I don't get anything on valentines day ever 🙃🥲

Glad I'm not the only one. It's always the small things that mean the most!

@Maddy i truly wonder what goes through their head

@Elizabeth i thought forsure id have people telling me i was in the wrong which is completely okay but its made me feel so seen but also sad that other women feel this way too its hard not too when people are being showered in gifts but the one thing we truly want doesnt cost money or time

He’s just covering up He never planned to give you flowers

For me this one is hard… I stopped caring about Valentine’s Day because it has proven to be one of the worst days of the year EVERY year in my 7 yr relationship. Figuring out how to love your partner is tough when their head is up their ass and you are too frustrated to welcome sub par gestures… He just hung up the phone on me in a fight about dinner and walked in the door reeking like weed, promptly jumped in the shower, and I notice a card and candy bar left on the table… So yeah. Still dreaming about prince charming, and hoping this 39yr old man will wake up one day. Doting on him hasn’t been enough. …anyone else bound with a narcissist?

I’m sorry he made u feel that way but here’s another perspective. From what I see of the women who post everything and the couples who share all that stuff on fb… they’re full of shit. Granted, some aren’t. But I’ve known a few men who love sooo much on their wives on fb and cheat on her in private. Or people who post their lavish vacations but are in debt. And I can’t stand the post from wives who are like oh my god my husband is so sweet look what he did meanwhile he doesn’t lift a hand at home, and xyz. So the grass is never greener on the other side. Be mad that he’s not honoring how u want to Be loved but f what other people post. Half of them lie to make themselves feel better

I like what Kacey said about our men honoring the way we want to be loved.