Am I the problem?!

What do you do when your relationship with your partner has reached its breaking point, there is heartbreak and pain involved but also happiness and love, my partner and I have been thru a whole lot together but he feels emotionally and spiritually checked out and it breaks my heart to hear him say I am just a mean person and he feels that I am unwilling to have a normal conversation without being smart or condescending and that he don’t see us working out anymore, you don’t change overnight things take time but I think he is really done this time! I’m not ready to just let go that fast, what should I do?! 💔💔😢😢( it’s like we wanted things to work but he told me that there will always be something blocking us from moving forward and he don’t have the tolerance or patience to work on things anymore)

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No I totally understand this I really do. I’m going through similar. I don’t have any advice just know ur not alone

I think the answer is, go to therapy. It sounds like your beyond advice from strangers. Even if you aren’t the problem, you need to talk to a professional. Maybe they will lay it out for you in a different way. Maybe he’s being manipulative. Maybe it’s the other way around. Without any context, I don’t think you’re going to get the answer you are seeking here. I suggest getting your own therapist.

I agree, therapy for you. Bring up what he said about your habits in conversation, ask the therapist to help you explore if that’s true. He could be saying the exact opposite of what is true. But if it is true, it could help to work on that and check to see if you have any attachment style issues. It could be all him though just projecting on to you. How do you FEEL around him? Confused and exhausted? Tell the therapist bc that’s important.

@Carissa I do agree with therapy but also strangers can also be a help depending who the person is

Counseling, individually and couples counseling.

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