I want one more my husband doesn’t

I would either go talk to a therapist about it or join some OAD and on the fence groups on Facebook. They have been helpful for me. I grew up an only as well and loved it. I have always been more on the fence and my husband more OAD. He had 2 brothers who he rarely sees or talks to, and one even lives down the street from us. Those groups have helped me sort through my emotions. For me, i think a lot of my questioning has been more about feeling less of a mother if we only had one. Society pressures you into thinking 2 is perfect and anything less is less than and anything more is too much. I think as far as how they feel about it, it boils down to how you raise them and how much they are able to interact with others as kids. I had a strong neighborhood friendship group growing up. We were always hanging out and playing. My parents were also very involved and taking me places and doing things together as a family

Thanks @Kristy my husbands brother lives 2 doors down. We saw them once in the last year. His brother also doesn’t speak to their mom. I do have a lot of cousins which was great we would spend a lot of time together. Family get togethers were always fun. I would also spend alot of my school holidays with my aunt. I felt more bonded with my aunt than my mom. when I would be home with my parents I hated it. My mom and I fought a lot. She made it hard for me to form any close friendships. She was a ticking time bomb. She was always so angry and abusive. I never went to therapy for it. Once I was able to move out I felt such a relief. Now at 41 our relationship is better but I can’t help to still hold a grudge. My husband doesn’t have too many friends either. He’s my best friend and I don’t feel lonely anymore. Some people thrive being alone, I don’t. I like having someone to hang out with. My 2 cousins are bothers and they are best friends I was always jealous of their

Relationship. Im thankful for my husband. I know we won’t ever let our son feel the way I felt. I will be the opposite of my parents. I’m hoping he will grow up and make some close friends and also enjoy spending time with us. I dreaded spending time with my mom. My dad was sweet. But he let my mom be the way she was. And she is mean to him too. I never went to therapy. Im on a few on the fence groups but as soon as I see they are expecting a second I get sad. I like reading from people who loved being an only child and also have just one. It’s possible to not feel lonely as an only. It’s my responsibility and I hope I can make him feel that way as he gets older

My husband was pretty set on being one and done, right up until recently. Our daughter is now 15 months and out of the blue, he said to me the other day, "so, you ready to make another one of these yet?" I was a little dumbfounded because he's always had concerns about our age, about providing for 2 vs 1, etc, while I keep having the feeling I'm not complete. I was also an only child until I was 10, so I kind of get the feeling, it was lonely at times. Anyway, not to give you false hope, but he may yet change his mind! Tbh I think my husband is just missing the cute "aww, she just sneezed and it's the most adorable thing ever" stage. 😂 Now when she sneezes she sprays boogers everywhere. Toddlers are disgusting. 🤣

@Melissa haha our son is 13 months. He’s the same thinking about being able to provide and the financial aspect of having children. Even with our boy it was a little challenging to get him to want any children. But now that our son is here he’s obsessed with him. And he wants to give him the best life possible. I think if we had a second he would feel the same way once they are here. Men brains are so different from ours. I’m hoping he will change his mind.