Highly toxic MIL

We all love these posts, don’t we. A few words that first come to mind when thinking of my mil: Narcissistic Passive aggressive Fake Inappropriate Enmeshment Manipulative My mil has been in some one sided “competition” with me since the day we met. The first thing she did was take her hair out of a bun and try to compare our hair length when my husband, then boyfriend, introduced me to her. She doesn’t respect me or my parenting choices, when we told her I was pregnant with our first son she wanted me to sign some contract stating she would always have access to my children in the event me and my husband separated. She asks my toddler to keep things from me. She has told me my husband (her son) can do much better than me (no one else would put up with either of their shit so I doubt that 🤣). Constantly undermines me and my parenting choices. Is (sexually) inappropriate with her son and was starting to display the same behavior towards my children. Ex: tries to get my husband to discuss with her how he masturbates, has shirtless flexing gym pictures of him stapled around the interior of her vehicle (you know, pictures that a gf or wife would keep in her wallet or somewhere private.) She says I “better shave” (my legs) before I think about having sex with her son. Now with my children, she tries to bring my toddler son into the bathroom with her, always tries to be in the bathroom when he is bathing, made inappropriate comments when changing my son because his private “went up”, she insisted it was because of her. We just told our family that we are pregnant with our 3rd and last baby and it is a girl, after having 2 boys, and she was very unhappy hearing it was a girl and nearly threw a rage fit. So. She actively makes fun of my or my family’s intelligence, and much. Much more. But those are a few important things to note that have caused me to go no contact with her. My husband, isn’t exactly on the same page as me as he doesn’t always see where she is wrong or why I have an issue with her in most cases. He respects that I don’t want to see or speak with her and I don’t trust her around my children and hasn’t tried to get in between that decision, but I feel like it’s only a matter of time before he wants his mother to visit or vice versa. I’ve been in therapy for 2 years because of this women. She is not allowed to be left alone with my children whatsoever, but now I don’t want her to visit our house either and I will not be going to hers since she crosses every single boundary I/we have established over the past 3.5 years. Her response to that was that she plans on spending every cent to her name to bring me to court to force me to have to let her see my children and/or try to get some sort of custody over my kids if her attempt to pull grandparent rights shit fails. We live in different states as well. My question is, has anyone ever dealt with a parent/in-law that actually attempted to pull something like this? Is it even something that would hold up in court? If i could get a restraining order on this women I would. And you’d think that living so far away (about 9-10h drive) would be enough to not worry about a random knock at the door but unfortunately that’s not the case. If you read this far, thank you.

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Do whatever you can to keep this vile woman WELL AWAY from your children 🤮🚩

wtf????? I think some states of grandparent rights but it’s pretty hard to get from what I understand as they have to have a big part in their life which she clearly doesn’t. She’s probably just trying to scare you into letting her have what she wants. Don’t let that woman near your family and keep evidence of things she’s doing if needed. Hopefully your husband stays loyal to his family he has created with you

Hey mama! MEEEE!!! My daughter is the first in a generation, so I’m sure you could see the power trip unravelling just from there. Unfortunately, for her, I am a trained paralegal in family law 🥰

Wtf she needs immediate therapy. Trust your gut and face the facts because they are staring you in the face. She sounds like a pedo and desperate for attention. But saying she’s the reason your son’s penis went up???? That’s disgusting. The fact she wants access to your children if you split as well, there’s no way she’d be near my child after this and if my partner wanted to be near his mum that says that stuff to him or to you then it would be a massive deal breaker. Document everything as evidence in case you do ever split up because she sounds like a nasty person that would probably spin everything and put it on you. The fact you’ve been in therapy for it too, it shows the damage she’s doing. Girl I don’t think grandparents rights are as strong as parental rights especially when you’re trying to protect your child. Disgusting woman. If he wants to see his mother he can and he can support her disgusting ways, but you don’t have to and nor does your child. They cant force you.

the grandparent law does apply in many places. I am NOT an attorney and CANNOT offer legal advice. But as a member, I would like to just ask you to please 1. Start keeping record of EVERYTHING. Find out the laws on recording in your state. Save every text and note every comment that you can’t get recorded. Everything is evidence. 2. Start putting cameras around your home. A person that enters a property is subjected to whatever is happening there, as in if there are cameras, they are agreeing to being filmed on your property upon entry. 3. If you already have something saved, start piecing together a case. Im sure if you’re being consistent, you can build a case for harassment and debate your safety. I cannot advise anything really else… maybe sit with an attorney just to see your options once you have your stuff collected… but I’d start there. As a member… good luck queen ✨

Also file first, get a restraining order. Don’t tell her just do it quietly. You’re well within your right to protect your child and yourself at all costs. If she’s a threat which I see she is then start building a case

Man wow. My mil has a lot of the same traits as yours. I barely speak to her or my fil. We live in the same state. Her odd behavior troubles me big time. And I agree I would never let her be alone with your children. Any kids really. Creepy behavior. Honestly, I would bring it up to your partner. Like when it’s just you two around and he is in a good mood. Like ask him if he thinks that’s normal behavior. He needs to stand up to her. Which is hard for him to do. But she is coco puffs crazy. You sound like a decent mom. Why on earth would she get custody over you. Maybe call the court for civil lawsuits and ask questions. Or look it up online. Good luck with that.

My face reading this entire thing was at a constant 😲😲😲

She needs sectioning, serious red flags especially with the sexual comments. My god I’m horrified

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