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Wait. So are y'all still together or exes or coparenting or separated or what?? Because y'all sound confusing tbh. I assume it was also a confusing relationship as well. You both need to learn how to communicate clearly with eachother. On your end try and communicate your expectations and wants from your partner from the beginning so that thry don't become lazy fuckers towards you. As well stop gifting someone who never shows you some love in any way. You did well telling them off and to stop with the games. Hopefully it gets better.
@Lav sorry I didn’t mean to sound “confusing”. When I mentioned the gifts I gave her, I meant throughout our relationship only. So that first instance where I said she bought something and excitedly presented it to me was when we was together, I only mentioned it because I was showing what she has done now, isn’t the first time she has done this. The book she got (herself) with my sons clothes then claimed she bought it for me, was the other day when we are not together so firstly she shouldn’t be getting me anything especially from her to me for no reason but secondly, she done this when we were together and it didn’t end well so why do it again now we are not together and expect I be happy?! We are meant to be co-parenting however this is the first time in almost 2 years she has gone out and bought our son clothes, it took about 18 months for her to start paying any child maintenance and there isn’t as much interaction between them as there should be!
@Caroline I have asked her this many times since we split up and only a few days ago got to the bottom of it from the actual horses mouth! She told me she was hoping I would get back with her and even if it’s not now, then some day hopefully we can be together again! This is something I have speculated since we broke up but now she has come out and said it I have told her straight up, there is absolutely NO chance I will ever get back with here, not now, not ever! I explained to her just how damaging she has been, to which she has said multiple times that she was “dog shit” and “a horrible person” and apologised many times over however still expects I would want someone like her back! We were meant to start the process of having my sons sibling at the end of the year and I have told her in plain words, I will do it alone, she will have NO involvement, won’t be on the birth certificate, it won’t be her child and her only commitments will be to our current child only!
I’m trying to put my foot down and make her know in plain and simple, basic terms we are over! She commented that she felt if we didn’t have our son, she feels I wouldn’t want to see her ever again and I told her she was correct! The moment she left that front door would have been the last time we saw or spoke to one another if our son wasn’t there however unfortunately that can’t happen! So I have no doubt the fact she is trying to fake gift me is to try and get back in my good books and to hope again she will have a chance (hence me telling her to take it back!)
Sorry I accidentally clicked on the bitch one 🤦🏽♀️
@Jasmine lol that’s okay, I’m sure the rest aren’t accidents 😂😂
@Shay I accidentally clicked the bitch one too! Sorry!
That type of gift giving is a way narcissists try to manipulate you and your emotions. It’s good that you called it out and stood up for yourself.
@Myleen thank you! I have been saying to her since we broke up that she is a narcissist. I looked on Google for ways to identify them, their traits and behaviours and she matched up with every single one! I even showed her the screen shot as proof that I’m not going crazy! She keeps insisting something is wrong with her and after years of me telling her in our relationship that I thought she was autistic and her adamant she wasn’t. Now she is trying to run with the whole autism thing! Running to the GP to try and get a diagnosis but I think it’s funny only now we have broken up, she decided to try and actually look into it, especially now her personality shows more narcissism than autism! I feel all I can do is keep shutting her down, keep reminding her she is there for our son only and that I want nothing from her and that there is no way she can redeem herself so that we are together again! This “gift giving” reminds me just how annoying she is if I was to give her any chances!
@Hayley np lol
Ty for clarifying. And phew 🙆🏿♀️ I am tayad on your behalf gf. Your ex is a handful but it's great you are definitely decided on what you will not tolerate from her. How does she even think you'd wanna go back with thrir current bad behaviour surely...not even trying to be better. Hopefully you are heard and you find some peace. The baby should be the priority. X
@Lav honestly, I think that’s the narcissism in her. She had been horrible in the entirety of our relationship and she refused to see anything was wrong with her mindset, thoughts or actions! It wasn’t until she got physical with me that she claimed to see the errors in her ways (but didn’t stop right away) girl I’m telling you this goes way deeper that what’s at the surface and she knows just how bad she was so I honestly think she believes she can still manipulate, control and guilt trip me into taking her back! The worst part is that these behaviours have literally become second nature to her now, she doesn’t even notice she is doing it (then there are times I’m sure she realises but she is trying to see if I will let her get away with it which I don’t!) I know my son will spot certain things as he ages and it’s his choice to keep her around or not🤷🏽♀️
Totally annoying! Also why is she 'trying' now? If you're split up I imagine there's no expectation of getting each other gifts! I feel for you - this behaviour sounds really confusing and irritating.