Calling as Black

I would definitely raise it. The little girl saying it must have some bad role models in her life if she’s saying these kinds of things. If she is stating a fact, that’s fair, but calling someone different is more often than not a negative thing and not nice. If your lg is upset then it definitely needs to be stopped. 💜

I am going to push this back on you slightly, what is the outcome you want? Also genuinely interested how do you know your child is offended? My little girl is almost 3 she never said so so said this and I didn’t like it. My little one also is very good at taking something that has happened to someone else and saying it happened to her 🤷‍♀️ so I tend to take what she says about nursery with a pinch of salt..

It’s crazy how many Asian people are still so racist towards black people. It’s unacceptable and yes you absolutely do need to raise a concern about it especially if it’s upsetting your daughter. Was the Asian girl pointing it out in a negative way or as a statement of fact? As in literally she has a different skin colour? Children are usually quite straightforward with their opinions/views at a young age. Also, she has called your daughter a pervert and an asshole?? What the actual fuck? She’s clearly heard her mum say that to the dad and is repeating it. Or someone very close to her in her family. That needs to be escalated immediately. I’d be surprised if the nursery didn’t consider that a safeguarding issue and make a referral to social services.

@Beth thank you x

@Emma we asked them to include my child to play with other kids. I could see my LG playing only with her She’s very upset and crying every day at home. We don’t speak English at home, our language is different. So we just speak basic English with our child. So obviously my LG don’t even know the meanings of many. I’m just surprised why the nursery is not taking this as an issue when it’s happening. Is it just because we are different. Also she hit our child on her eye. I did make raise this issue and they said no such incident happened. My Daughter is very shy and don’t speak to adults. I’m just being surprised the way they address an issue. Thank you for the advise xx

@Neena I did raise a concern several times but I don’t see any changes which is upsetting to us. I don’t know what the conversation is but my LG said that she pointed it on her face and said that she is black and different. I do understand about the colours of the skin etc but upsetting my daughter by calling such things is not what I’m expecting:( she also said my LG is a disgusting girl. They said will keep an eye on them but I could see no change but the LG saying more new things to my daughter. Thank you xx

I would ask to have a sit down with the manager if the nursery and raise your concerns, it could be that they don’t understand how this is making you feel. I think it’s very hard for nursery workers to “make” your daughter play with other children as they tend to just wander off to an activity they like and someone could be there. But if you don’t want your daughter to socialise with the other child ask them to keep them separated and for ideas on how they will do that. Children do also hit other children, not saying it’s right - but at the age they are they’re getting to grips with their emotions/frustrations and how to deal with them and sometimes that’s lashing out - how do they deal with this? When your child is upset and crying at home does she say why? When you take her to nursery does she cry/say she doesn’t want to go? I would go in with clear outcomes/ideas of what you want to happen. Follow up the meeting in writing with what was agreed and ask for a regular updates