Should I tell my husband I'm disappointed by my bday gift?

Hard to say

Your feelings are valid. You got him something that has to do with his interests and he got you costume jewlery that has to do with motherhood. It’d be a cute mother’s day gift but idt if it’s a good bday gift. Definitely giving last minute/idk what to get her vibes. I’d try and let him know , in a gentle way lol. And then treat yourself to a spa day or something lol.

I think comparing gifts is wrong

I wouldn’t say anything if the only issue is how much he spent. He probably put a lot of thought into your gift and was proud of himself 😅 Is he cheap any other time? My husband can afford to buy me pretty much anything I ask for but for valentines day he got me a cheap forever rose off of amazon that had the factory glue showing. I was happy that he put thought into getting me something outside of the ordinary. Men are different 🤣

I personally wouldn’t. I don’t think my husband has ever gotten me anything that I’ve really loved lol & so I usually just spend his money to get what I really want since I control the money in our household anyhow 🤪lol I mean it’s nice to have a man who has taste and knows precisely what I’d want but that never has really happened for me with the exception of bags / jewelry. & I’m not too bothered by it. Because I’m pleased in other ways. But idk if he has a history of getting things you’ve loved and all of a sudden this then I still wouldn’t however if he has a lengthy history of getting you very good gifts year after year and now there have been several gifts that have not pleased you like this then maybe 😌 gift giving is my love language so I definitely get it but maybe take the whole picture into account when considering how best to proceed

As others have said, I would appreciate anything my husband got me that he put thought into. I also haven’t really loved lots of gifts I’ve been given, but I’ve loved the thought and effort and that he felt proud of himself getting me something he thought was nice. Presents just aren’t important to my husband, in the same way they are to me and he shows his love in so many other amazing ways that I know I’m so lucky to have. So it doesn’t bother me. So maybe it would be good to have a think about why it bothers you and if it’s truly something you can’t look past or is the symptom of something deeper, then talk to him

It might make him not bother getting anything for you anymore. I've thought about creating an Amazon list of things I want and if he ever wanted to gift or surprise me, refer there. 😅 I'm pretty picky.

This is an excellent question. 😅 I can sympathize a little. My husband got me a shirt and new gloves for my birthday last week. He thought about taking me out of town, but our son isn't old enough for us to leave him with someone overnight. I don't know if we're just postponing that? Otherwise, he took me out to Café Rio and Coldstone which was sweet. I already told him at Christmas that I got us Ben Rector tickets for his birthday this year, which seems much bigger, so I was a little disappointed. But I had to remember that last year for my birthday, he bought me an electric guitar and an amp, and I think all I got for his birthday last year was a leaf blower, because he'd been talking about wanting one, and a shirt.

this happened with me once when i brought a gift for my husband put a lot of thought in it and all i wanted was to make him happy that how much i think about him. and he didn’t like it because his gift was more expensive 🤐 it did hurt me when he said that. later he said he didn’t mean it he was just teasing me. so i would advise you to not say anything

You can't compare the gift, I think you are lucky to get any at all. Next time before your birthday give him a list so he can choose what to get and you won't be disappointed. I wouldn't say anything, as it can make him feel bad about it. 🤷‍♀️

I would want my husband to tell me if I got him a gift he didn’t really like 🤷‍♀️

@Santa Thanks for the reply. This comment stood out to me because being grateful for any birthday gift from my husband doesn't resonate with me. My coworkers get me impersonal gifts and I love them. I wish more from my husband. My feelings are hurt and they are just as important as his.

@MrsB Thanks for the perspective. I'll think about this.

@Lena Thank you. He is great in many other ways. He tends to center things around his preferences but I knew that about him early on.

@Victoria~ I agree. I would much rather be told and actually start getting gifts someone wants vs never getting a good gift and have my wife just stay quiet about it!