What would you do?

I need some advice on my situation. My husband has two children from a previous relationship. We have a daughter together and I am currently pregnant with our second child. BM decided to take SK on holidays abroad to the Caribbean in the week that my baby is due. I don't know what to do, as I would like them to meet the new baby, but I am also worried about them bringing some illnesses from their holidays and passing it on to the baby. Would you let them see the baby or should I suggest to keep them away for a few days when they come back from holidays? I am already stressing out and also my husband is not happy about it, as instead of focusing on the coming baby, he will be worrying about them being on the other side of the world.

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Your baby may not even come during the time they’re away unless you’ve scheduled a c section. I’d make plans for someone else to have the children during your scheduled time when they’re back. That’s if you’ve had the baby :)

I wouldn’t let them meet baby until they’ve been back for a week with no signs of illness x

I agree with Molly! I’d say a week with no signs of illnesses x

Thank you for your replies. I was thinking the same, to have at least a week when they're back before meeting a baby. Just wasn't sure if it is the right thing to do and didn't want to be the bad guy, not allowing them to meet the baby straight away. I had a conversation with my husband and he agreed. Unfortunately they will have to wait and stay with their mom longer before they meet the baby. My baby's safety comes first. I wish they would go on holiday in the summer and not during school time and it would be ok for everyone, but it is not up to me. X

Make sure the BM is paying your fine if she’s taking them out of school. Get something written up and get her to sign it. I believe us step mums also have to pay the fine too!!!

I have to look into this, as I am not sure if we as step moms will have to pay it too. I hope not. We have a text from BM that she will pay for the fine if they get it. I hope that is enough of a proof or should we write it all down and make her to sign it?

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