Sad.
Show your support
@Claire my best friend doesn’t. And I know I should reach out to her about it but it sucks to feel like I have to ask her to meet my daughter. I can’t imagine if the table were turned it being like this.
Maybe you could keep it informal and just invite her for a cuppa. See how she responds
Have you shared that you want people over to hang out or invite people over. Because some people might worry that you don’t want them over when you have a new baby or if you’re dealing with stuff they might not want to be there if you don’t want them to
@Gabrielle yes 🥺
Many people worry that they would be overstepping by just stopping by when you're under a lot of stress with a new baby. I, personally, would not have been thrilled if someone showed up unannounced. I would communicate clearly that you would like visitors.
@MK I have 😢
honestly that’s what happens when u have kids. u figure out very quickly who is really ur friend and who isn’t or who actually cares abt u and ur baby and who doesn’t 🤷♀️
i had a few friends that needed to be told (by one of my other friends) that to meet the baby they literally just had to ask and make it happen. i think people forget that as new mommies we are way too occupied to be the ones to set up meet and greets. maybe your friends need the gentile push. either way, i’m sorry you’re experiencing this. new motherhood can be so strangely isolating and it is so so much harder when our friends don’t show up the at we need them to.
I had exactly the same thing. Im 10 month PP and my bestie/bridesmaid hasn’t spoken to me since I had my LO. I have several friends who I thought would gather round and support. And nothing. It hurts. Im sorry. You will get to a point where you no longer feel the need to validate others and focus on you and yours. The people that matter will come in and support. Even if its only family. New friends will come in this new season of your life who will be right ❤️
All my friends disappeared after i had my son. Like literally ghosted me completely. These days people want as little responsibility as possible and that also includes supporting their friends 🤷🏻♀️
Oh I’m sorry, that’s not kind of them. Do they have children? I think friends who don’t have children can be oblivious to the need for support in early motherhood (not an excuse tho). Have you reached out to them, invited them over? You’re not alone here.