Really want my tube's tied

If you’ve been on it that long and are certain you don’t want any more children, I’d say your decision has been made. You just need to take the necessary steps. Hormonal birth control takes a toll on your body, esp if you’ve been on it for a while. Since tube tying comes with many risks due to the surgical implications (going under the knife, anesthesia), do you think you can try something less invasive like condoms for the time being? Or a different kind of birth control? Just throwing things out there…unless of course you want to permanently sterilize yourself, which you have every right to do if that’s what you truly want.

I love my IUD I have the last 5 years one. I got one put about 3 months after having our son got in again after 5 years and about to get it changed out again. After a year of being on it I stopped having periods and didn’t have any more ovarian cyst problems. I’m scared to tie my tubes because everyone I that has got problems ever since. Plus they still get periods so at least this stops that from happening. Now when I first got it in I almost got it taken out because I was bleeding a lot off and on but after 6 months that went away and I went 4 years without any kind of bleeding!

Sounds like you need this conversation with your husband, if he is hoping for more kids. It's not a decision to take lightly, which I am sure you are aware. I definitely empathise with the wish not to be on hormonal birth control any more. I've had the same opinion since coming off the pill to have my first, and not back on it yet. Perhaps a barrier method, or copper coil are options in the meantime?

I've tried the iud and I hated it, gave me utis every month. Then the nexplanon for the 3 years and towards the end I began to get full of rage, and once it was removed I got depressed for a few weeks due to the lack of hormones. Can't do a lighter hormone pill because it's not strong enough with how easily I get pregnant. Missing a day I got pregnant with one of mu kids. I already don't get a period now with the one I'm on, but at this point I'm old enough that I don't care if I do get one, and honestly the side effects of a ligation don't bother me

@Incognito wow, you’ve been through a lot with BC. Getting your tubes tied & having a conversation with your husband would be the next step—since condoms and a vasectomy don’t seem to be an option due to him wanting more kids. My OB told me that female sterilization doesn’t involve tying the fallopian tubes anymore bc of the side effects/complications women experienced. Now they just remove them completely—I didn’t know this until she told me. You’ll still get periods. My sister got it done, and she manages just fine. Even though it’s considered a simple surgical procedure, make sure you do as much research as possible. You wanna know ALL the risks involved before going under. It’s such a shame that the brunt of birth control is placed on women. We put our bodies through so much, esp for men. Good luck with everything. ❤️

I had my tubes removed... (a yr ago) sometimes my periods are super light no biggie. Sometimes they are hellish ngl. A few reallly bad ones so far. I'm glad I did it tho personally, if you want no more kids then you want no more kids. It's your body. And moms carry so much of the weight parenting normally I mean it's really a you thing all together. I'd act considerate w him tho and chat to say "I've thought long and hard about this" at least. But yea it's not so bad. Ask the doc about endometriosis related to the ligation tho, I think it might increase risk of that (which I'm wondering if it's why my cramps suck so bad sometimes lately) Whatever we choose is a trade off. I almost wish guys would just do what needs to be done imo because we literally have to pick and think what sucks the least and they have no ill effects either way. Lame.

@ren “Whatever we choose is a trade off. I almost wish guys would just do what needs to be done imo because we literally have to pick and think what sucks the least and they have no ill effects either way. Lame.” My thoughts exactly! I think BC is a form of misogyny, but that’s another conversation.