TTC - trying not to obsess
Show your support
Nope. Just letting you know I'm in the same boat. The more I focus on how much I don't want to focus on it. The more focus. Lol My husband downloaded the period app. And I tell him when I start and finish, so he can see when I'm most likely to be fertile, so I'm not always initiating or feel like it's just for me to obsess Now obviously he's not worrying about egg whites, sore boobs and everything else 😂 BUT it may be a option to share the mental load a very small amount I also got some male TTC vitamins, so again we take them together And booking a weekend away has been helpful too, dates , stuff to look forward too that's not just babys x
If they really stopped trying, they wouldn’t have had a pregnancy, I think some people don’t know how hard it is for others struggling with infertility and think in good faith that those comments will help you relax. I can say I got pregnant the only month I could not get a positive ovulation test and when I went for the dating scan the baby was measuring 1 week ahead so I must have ovulated straight after my period. Luckily I was visiting my husband that weekend (he was abroad back then) so I would say, don’t just plan sex around your ovulation days, I was always ovulating regularly but that month was different. And I suppose the worst part is the wait, for that I would try to find a fun activity, maybe start a course or take on a new class that can keep you busy, give yourself an extra day before you test and then another one, the longer you leave it, the better. Make it a game to see if you can resist on testing 😊🤞 and don’t give up ❤️
I got pregnant with our little girl by not paying attention to any of my cycle stuff. I was totally surprised when it happened and didn't feel it was the right time for me. After doing some reading for something I found an article about when people usually get pregnant. It said "babies come when they're needed not when they are wanted". I struggled mental throughout my pregnancy and remember those words really helped me. Now we're trying for baby no. 2 I keep reminding myself of this and know baby will come a) come when we least expect it and b) will come when we need them not want them.