Should I pick my own Mother’s Day gift?

I choose my own Christmas/birthday gifts. We don't really do valentine's/mother's/father's day but I can't see why you couldn't choose.

Could you just send him a couple of ideas that you want?

The hard truth is that your baby is the one who the present is from. Your partner has a mum! So since hd bought you those lovely flowers and chocolate, he probably is used to that level of stuff for his own mum. He might get offended if you tell him what to do, as it could be seen as a bit rude. That is a lovely set. I think you should buy it for yourself, to avoid any disappointment. Buy it nice and early, before Mother’s Day, then show your partner what you bought yourself from the baby! Hint hint, without any negativity. This may inspire him to get something different/more along this line.

@Warwor my baby is 18mo 😂 presents come from the adult (on behalf of the child) till the child is old enough to pick for themselves 🤷🏽‍♀️ why would I buy my own present, he doesn’t buy his own Father’s Day gifts

I’d just get it for myself if it was something I loved that much. My partner doesn’t know what to get me coz I buy everything I want for myself 😂 so he just takes me out for date/dinner all these years (which is what I want, to be wined and dined since my love language is quality time not gifts). You have 2 options here- send him the link, and say that’s what you want. He pays and organises to be sent home. Or you buy it yourself. Who knows, half the gifts women post on Mday and Bday on IG saying “thank you Hubby! So thoughtful, I love it” maybe she bought it herself 😂 we don’t know that 💁🏻‍♀️ Have you seen the reels on IG where she gives him flowers then closes the door and comes back in like he’s standing there holding them about to give it to her 😂 and she’s like, “omg thank you!” 😂 reminds me of that

😂I know! But unless you are someone who is surrounded by people who think like you/show love like you through certain gifts, then your baby is the only one you can teach this love language to. Reaping the gifts when they are old enough. Your partner receiving certain gifts from you for Father’s Day, does not equal him thinking along the same lines for your Mother’s Day. That is why I said it’s the ‘hard truth’.

Give him a few ideas of what you want and ask him to do it. For example at Xmas I wanted a designer purse and I picked 5 I liked and hubs picked the one he wanted to get.

I chose my own! I also sent my husband on a Mother’s Day craft session with our son so I had something hand made 😂 if you don’t want to be disappointed I’d ask him for it!

Mention in passing or just ask him if he’d like some ideas. Turn it round and say ohh I know it can be tricky so I’ll send a couple of ideas for you as inspiration or something. It’s not a problem x

I’ve already hinted to my partner a gift, it’s baby’s finger print on a necklace …. It’s not something he would think of but I’ve sent it him & told him I like it. Hoping he’ll get the hint

I feel this I have never had a mother's day card that says mother it's always to my wife on mother's day and never signed with the kids name. The excitement of the kids hand made cards from school made the moment the most special.

@Anita yep totally relate to this, my partner got me a card last year and it said “to a wonderful mother” with a really old lady like design on 🥲 not something a baby would get her mommy ❤️‍🩹 can’t wait till she’s bigger and can make her own cards! 😂