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Would you like to play with this or this (so giving them another choice so they feel in control) whilst you wait’. I think it’s also easy to not practice at home with mummy and daddy! We’ve just realised that we have been letting our girl just sort of have stuff when she asks for it. Which is fine, but sometimes it might be better to use it as a teaching thing if we’re actually in the middle of using it! You can also do things like share food/drinks, even if this means pouring them into different cups/plates and just really explaining what’s going on! Sorry for the very long explanation, I hope it’s helpful!
Thank you. That does really help. I will try some of those things. Oddly my LB loves to share his food with us. Just not toys with other children it seems! Nursery have made it sound worse than it is I think.
Yes for sure! Another thing that I forgot to mention is swapping toys! We find that works quite well done too! So if you want that toy we can swap them over for the one I’m playing with etc! Doesn’t always work but worth a try too!
Kids are going to take things off eachother at this age, they’re not going to want to share. Try teaching him about taking turns with something “this is my turn, it’s your turn next” maybe throwing a ball or something. My daughter has started getting the hang of turn taking, but still doesn’t want to share 🤷🏼♀️ I wouldn’t worry about it too much, kids are kids and they behave this way for a reason!
Thanks everyone 🙂 x
From what I’ve read, it’s unreasonable to expect a 2 year old to share. Their brain is ego-centric at this age, meaning they believe the whole world revolves around them, and this is developmentally normal. I think when they get to 3 things start to change and they can start to see others, and understand that they aren’t the only people in the world! However, you can definitely model it! What we try and say is turn taking, rather than sharing, as it’s an easier concept to understand I think. So, ‘mummy’s having a turn right now, it will be child’s name’s turn after’. You can start this by making them wait for little to no time, and slowly build it up. I guess it’s also about holding that boundary when they get upset. Or if you’re with little ones friends taking something off your little one once their turn is up, and then okaying their feelings, so ‘It’s made you feel really sad that mummy has taken that toy away. It’s friends turn now, and it will be your turn again soon.