Behaviour Issue

Hi All, just after some advice on what to do really. Our son is 3 and we have a almost 3month old. My 3yr old has starting acting out at nursery alot, he only goes 3 hrs a day and but he's been hitting and throwing at other kids. At pick ups we feel like idiots being pulled aside and it feels like the teachers make us feel like we're not doing enough and we both feel like useless parents atm. We're tried so many different methods, he enjoys going nursery and I'm debating keeping him off for a few days to work it out and talk things through as he doesn't hit at home but will throw tantrums If anyone has any suggestions please advise!

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Could he still be having a hard time dealing with having a new sibling and needing to share attention and love (and soon possibly other things too) at home that he is lashing out at nursery if something similar happens? It took quite a while for my oldest to stop lashing out. They have these overwhelming feelings about a possible replacement and can't quite describe them properly yet so they lash out. It will get better. He probably just needs to be reminded that he is still loved just as much as his younger sibling. It may not completely stop just yet but it will get better with continuous love and support and correction. Hope that helps! x And as for people potentially judging, most people will judge nomatter what you do so don't worry about them.

I'm sure the teachers aren't deliberately trying to make you feel useless but it may come across that way if they are singling you out each day, maybe send the director an email and suggest informing you another way so you are not being put on show in front of other families.

@Vee thank you that's what we've been trying to do and I've been trying to spend more 1 on 1 time with him.. I'm EBF so maybe he just thinks I'm always holding the baby and not him as much anymore. We try not to give to much attention to the tantrums and they do soon stop at home

hmm, that sounds tough, but honestly, a lot of kids go through phases like this, maybe just try to chat with him about feelings and see if that helps? here's what the 'Heal Baby Care App' says.... "It sounds like you're going through a challenging time, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. Since your son is acting out at nursery but not at home, it may be helpful to explore what triggers his behavior in that environment. Keeping him off for a few days could give you both a chance to reset and discuss feelings, but also consider setting up a calm space at home where he can express his emotions and practice sharing or taking turns with toys. Have you noticed any specific situations at nursery that seem to lead to his hitting or throwing?

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